Bern Erik: kupeza ndalama kusanthula monga njira misala

Eric Berne anali wotchuka padziko lonse wa misala komanso sayansi likuvutika chiphunzitso chakuti za mgwirizano pakati pa anthu ndi ubale awo ndi ena. Kupeza ndalama Analysis Erika Berna kuphunzira ndi zamaganizo ambiri amene anayamba chakuti anthu moyo kwenikweni pa nkhani, chosungikira ana. mawu ambiri makolo kuyala stereotypical khalidwe la munthu, izo Mzimuyo khalidwe la moyo ndi kulankhulana. Kodi izo - kusanthula kupeza ndalama monga njira misala? Kwenikweni ake ndi phindu kwa munthu ndi chiyani?

ndi chiphunzitso cha kupeza ndalama kusanthula Erika Berna chiyani?

Amaona kuti maganizo chitsanzo kuti amasonyeza kusanthula khalidwe ndi anzake anthu mu gulu ndi mwa iwo okha. Chiphunzitsochi wakhala wotchuka kwambiri chifukwa kupezeka ndi mawu a malongosoledwe a mayankho anthu khalidwe.

The zopanda yeniyeni apa kuti nthaŵi zina munthu akhoza kuchita, malingana ndi zomwe atatu I-maudindo zimatengera. Woyamba wa malo amenewa kulabadira Bern Erik. kusanthula kupeza ndalama limachokera psychoanalysis, kotero kuganizira ndi kuwona zinthu zakuya za psyche anthu.

Pakuti misala zofunika kufika ntchito mfundo imeneyi ndi mfundo yakuti munthu aliyense angathe kuphunzira kuganiza ndi kukhala ndi udindo pa zochita zawo, kukhulupirirana pamwamba maganizo onse ndi zofuna, zochita kumanga ubale wa anthu. Ku udindo uwu, Erika Berna chiphunzitso ndi njira kwambiri kuthandiza munthu polimbana ndi mavuto a moyo.

Udindo wotuluka

Chiphunzitso ichi, zovuta kumvetsa kapangidwe ka umunthu - atatu limati cholinga: Kholo, Mwana, Wamkulu. Aliyense wa iwo ndi zimasiyana kwambiri ndi ena, ya makhalidwe khalidwe, kaganizidwe ndi kumverera.

Kwa dokotala, m'pofunika kwambiri kumvetsa zimene boma munthu amalowa njira imodzi kapena wina, ndi kuti akhoza kusintha khalidwe lake kotero kuti iye akanakhoza kukhala ndi makhalidwe ogwirizana anatchula Bern Erik. kusanthula kupeza ndalama kumafuna malamulo zitatu ndi ulemu m'maboma awa cholinga:

• Aliyense pa zaka za munthu anali kamodzi kakang'ono, choncho mwina kuchita mchikakamizo cha mwana cholinga boma.
• Aliyense (ndi chitukuko yachibadwa ubongo) wapatsidwa mphamvu kusankha yoyenera adziwe zoona zenizeni zimene zikusonyeza kukhalapo kwa wamkulu wake boma cholinga.
• Tonse anali ndi makolo kapena anthu m'malo iwo, kotero ife tiri ndi mfundo imeneyi, m'kukoma boma cholinga Kholo.

Pa maziko a misala ndi kusanthula kupeza ndalama ndi chithandizo kukwaniritsidwa kwa anthu wosabereka khalidwe stereotypical. Analysis wa wotuluka zikuchitika mothandizidwa ndi katswiri, amathandiza munthu kukhala waphindu kufunafuna njira mu kuzindikira chowonadi, mu zolinga m'tsogolo.

Mitundu ya wotuluka mu misala

mogwirizana aliyense pakati pa anthu, kapena kulankhula si mawu, wotchedwa wotuluka chiphunzitso, kuti anapatsa Bern Erik. Kupeza ndalama kusanthula mu chimango cha misala kumaphatikizapo kuphunzira ubale wa anthu, komanso njira kupeza mavuto kuyambika.

Katswiri ndi opani ziwembu zomwe zachititsa kuti mavuto m'banja. Pali mitundu iwiri ya amayankhulitsana ndi popanda mawu n'komwe:

• yomweyi;
• kupandira.

njira yomweyi mogwirizana

Dokotala ntchito ndi kasitomala, Mzimuyo mtundu wa wotuluka zomwe ankagwiritsa ntchito. maganizo kufanana ndi mabwenzi zaphindu. Mu nkhani iyi, cholinga-udindo ayenera kufanana. Mwachitsanzo, iwowo ndi funso "Muli bwanji?" ndipo yankho, "Zonse ziri bwino!" zopangidwa ndi kaonedwe ka wamkulu. Pankhaniyi, palibe mavuto mogwirizana sadzafika.

wotuluka mtanda

Cross lingachititse mikangano. Ndi mogwirizana ichi, chimene nzothandiza (funso kapena pempho) amachokera munthu amene zosayembekezeka kaonedwe ka mayiko ena cholinga. Mwachitsanzo, funso "Kodi wotchi yanga?" ndi yankho ndi lakuti, "Kodi oponyedwa, apo ndipo anatenga kuchokera!" - zokhudza pangano pa kaonedwe ka akulu ndi makolo. Pankhaniyi, nkhondo ya khateyo.

Pakadali zibisika ndikupeleka (pa milingo maganizo ndi chikhalidwe). Pankhaniyi, ndikofunika kudziwa zolimbikitsa anthu kulankhulana wina ndi mzake.

Zolimbikitsa kulankhulana

Nkofunika ovomerezeka munthu chitukuko. Ichi ndi chimodzi mwa zinthu zofunika anthu. Akuti kupeza ndalama kusanthula ovomerezeka ngati kapena nzothandiza amatchedwa "stroking". nthawi ngati zimenezi mu mgonero akhoza kunyamula zabwino kapena zoipa apamtima. "Stroking" ndi mtheradi (monga mfundo yakuti munthuyo) ndi makonzedwe (kupatsidwa zochita). Omalizira utoto ndi chizindikiro cha zotengeka, "+" kapena "-".

Mu achire mchitidwe katswiri limaphunzitsa munthu kuchitapo zolimbikitsa ngati kapena ayi, makamaka akakhala negative. Zabwino makonzedwe "zikwapu" si nthawi zonse zoyenera kutenga, monga munthu amaphunzira kukhala "zabwino", ndiko kuyesetsa kusangalatsa aliyense, kusankhana okha.

M'pofunikanso kuphunzitsa kasitomala kusiya zinthu zimene zimayikidwa patsogolo kwa tidzayesetsa zabwino, ngati iwo satero zogwirizana ndi malo mkati mwa munthu, amene makamaka anatsindika Bern Erik. Kupeza ndalama Analysis amathandiza kasitomala kuganizira polenga zinthu zofunika kwa iye, kumene mukhoza kupeza mphamvu zatsopano zochita zina zotero. Mu kukhudzana achire ndi zamaganizo kuphunzitsa munthu kuvomereza nokha, ndiye upo mukapambana.

wotuluka woonamtima ndi achinyengo

Mfundo ina mu kuphunzira wotuluka ngati njira mankhwala ndi kudziwa ankachita kuti kudziwa chibwana payekha. zodabwitsazi amatchedwa structuring nthawi Eric Berne. Psychoanalysis amakonda kuona pang'ono pa mbali ina: pa malo a asilikali chitetezo.

Pali njila zisanu ndi imodzi ya nthawi structuring:

• Care (kunyengerera njira kukhudzana anthu);
• masewera (a mndandanda wa wotuluka zobisika, zomwe ndi "mokondera" kupezerera anthu);
• Ubwenzi (ankachita chiwerewere);
• miyambo (ndikupeleka olakwika chifukwa ndi zinthu zina);
• Entertainment (kukwaniritsa zolinga zina nokha);
• ntchito (kulandira zinthu za ozungulira ndi kukwaniritsa zolinga zawo).

Zomalizira amatchedwa "chokoma" chifukwa Sanyengerera ena. Ndikuphunzitsidwa akucheza naye amathandiza kumanga ndikupeleka zabwino popanda khalidwe achiwembu. Games - ndi zotsatira pa chikhalidwe cha anthu. About Mukambirane pansipa.

zochitika moyo wa anthu

Aliyense amakhala kwa sewero anapatsidwa, monga mwana, kukangana Eric Berne. zitsanzo Psychology moyo wa anthu zimadalira malo anatengedwa ndi mwana.

1. Wopambana - munthu amene lakwaniritsa zolinga polimbana yokhudza ena. Pa mankhwala anthu awa reassessing maganizo ndi masewera achiwembu, kumanga ndikupeleka zipatso popanda okhudza ena.
2. Anagonjetsa - anthu mowirikiza akukumana zolephera, zokhudza ena mavuto awo. Misala anthu oterowo n'kofunika kwambiri. Tikukambirana ndi kusanthula wotuluka anthu amenewa kumvetsa zifukwa zolephera moyo wawo. Makasitomala amaphunzitsidwa kuchita vuto, osati kuchita nawo ena, yesani kutuluka mavuto chosatha.
3. "Osati kuwina" - Munthu wokhulupirika, kugwira ntchito yawo yonse, samalani kuti Usatong'olere anthu owazungulira. Kumvetsa ndondomeko ya misala moyo sewero lanu, ngati munthu wapatuka zochita zina zochokera zofuna zanu ndi zolinga.

zochitika zonse (kuti mudziwe zambiri za iwo akhoza kuwerenga bukuli, lomwe linalembedwa ndi Eric Berne, - "Psychology cha ubale wa anthu, kapena Games Anthu Play") timapeza chifukwa makolo mapulogalamu ana aang'ono. Choyamba mukutengera mauthenga awo sanali wolalata, kenako kupyolera mwa mawu. Iwo amene anathawira pa moyo wa maganizo, kotero kuti munthu sangathe ndikuganiza zimene malinga ndi makhalidwe ake. Choncho, mavuto okhudzana ndi zochitika moyo kapena ankachita nkhondo, n'kofunika kukaonana ndi dokotala amene amadziwa zingwe chiphunzitso cha kuwunika ndalama.