Sakonda khalidwe: ndi zizindikiro ndi zoyenera kuchita nayo

Anthu a boma yachibadwa thanzi kuyesetsa osati ndi anthu komanso ndi anthu onse. Choncho, munthu amayamba kuona membala wa gulu ndi kumvetsa bwino zimene ndi udindo wake pakati pa anthu. Anapanga kudziwa za malo ake akhoza anazindikira wofuna amayesa kutenga anthu monga mkulu ngati n'kotheka. Koma nthawi zina munthu amachita chikhalidwe cholakwika. Ndipo kuchita zimenezo amatchedwa "khalidwe sakonda." Tiyeni tione chimene icho chiri.

Mu West, kuonetsetsa ngakhale mtundu wa nthenda chitukuko cha umunthu. Ife mwalamulo sakuvomereza. Koma akatswiri athu ndi kumadzulo zikutanthauza chinthu chomwecho ndi mawu akuti "sakonda khalidwe." Khalidweli zowononga yodziwika ndi covert kapena zoonekera nafe ndiponso pozindikira mokwiya ndi ena. Pali mawonetseredwe a amawasonyeza mosiyanasiyana kwa mwamphamvu. Mwina icho chokha okha kuphwanya malamulo chikhalidwe, koma zingakhale zikuipiraipirabe. Open kunyoza malamulo nyumba ofunda ndi atsogoleri osasankhidwa, ndi kusafuna kuzindikira ufulu wa ena, chinyengo, kunena kuti amalemekeza ufulu wa anthu padziko - ". Khalidwe sakonda" onse zizindikiro za chodabwitsa

West ake amawapeza ana kwa zaka zitatu. Ngati mulibe kulabadira zimene mwana umafuna, mwachitsanzo, kuti alange mphaka, nthawi, choncho angafikire kwa anthu. Choncho Mulimonsemo simungathe kusiya propensity chiwawa sakuyankhidwa.

Khalidwe sakonda kungakhale moona mtima. Izo kumaonekera mwachibale kwa abale ndi alongo, makolo, aphunzitsi ndi m'kalasi. Nthawi zambiri pa zaka sukulu, izo zimatengera mtundu wa achipongwe, mankhwala kunyoza ndi kumenya ana ena. Ndipo pakhoza kubisika, kuti akugwirizana ndi mopanda ulemu tikafika, monga kuba, vandalism kapena anachita kuwotcha dala. Social kuwerenga maganizo a khalidwe odana ndi chikhalidwe monga mtundu zobisika za propensity wake kunamiza mwana m'njira imeneyi chilango lalikulu sayembezereka, kapena mobisa akufuna kulanda zidole anthu ena. Kamodzi awa "ana" amakula, iwo nthawi zambiri makasitomala a ogulitsa mankhwala osokoneza bongo komanso ogula m'masitolo mowa dipatimenti.

Atsikana ambiri zochepa sakonda khalidwe kuposa anyamata. Koma iwo amakhala chipangizo zambiri mawonetseredwe. Mwachitsanzo, iwo bungwe oimira baiting wa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha kapena kumenyana mokwiya anyamata ndi ulemu kwa wina ndi mzake. Oimira kugonana mphamvu zambiri amapezeka kutsegula mawonetseredwe anachita chikhalidwe, kuti mokwiya thupi.

Mu njira zambiri, pakutchulidwa wa khalidwe ndi chifukwa maganizo a makolo m'banja. Nthawi zambiri zowononga kulankhulana njira ya mwanayo chifukwa chakuti iye zionetsero Choncho ndi zoweta chiwawa mikangano kapena ubale makolo. Nthawi zina ana zonsezi zikusonyeza mokwiya kwa ziweto aziwatsatira kukumana olusa pa makolo kapena ana ena. Makamaka amasonyeza makhalidwe osayenera ndi khalidwe la makhalidwe cholowa, makamaka makhalidwe a mwanayo, irritability. Ana otere amakhala nawo otsika luso chidziwitso ndipo zimakhala anakumana ndi anzawo sakonda.

Ndingatani chilichonse? Inde, zamaganizo wabwino angathandize kuphunzitsa mwana kuugwira mtima, kumvetsa maganizo ena 'zawo ndipo ndi kupeza njira kukondera pa mavuto. Amathandiza mu maphunziro gulu. Zikavuta, ndi mankhwala kuti amachepetsa zochitika makhalidwe mopupuluma.