Kutsanzira ndiyo njira yodzidzimitsira yekha

Mu nthawi ya mapangidwe a umunthu, ndikufuna kwambiri kuona chitsanzo chotsanzira. Ziri zomveka - munthu aliyense akufuna kukhala ndi chithunzi chovomerezeka kufikira, kufikira mutakhala okwanira komanso opangidwa mokwanira. Momwe mungakhalire, ngati mwana wachinyamata amasankha yekha si chitsanzo chabwino? Kodi mungatani ngati munthu wamkulu akufunikira fanoli? Ndi chiyani chabwino ndi choyipa kutsanzira? Izi ndizo zonse ndi zina zomwe tidzakambirana pazomwezi.

Kutsanzira muubwana

Ngati muli ndi ana, kapena mukhoza kuyang'ana ana a achibale kapena abwenzi, ndiye kuti mwawona kuti nthawi zambiri mwanayo akufuna "kukhala ngati wina aliyense."

Kutsanzira koteroko ndi njira yachibadwa yomwe mwana amachitira dziko lapansi akadali wamkulu, pamene anzako ali chitsanzo cha maonekedwe ndi khalidwe. Musamachepetse mwanayo pofuna kuti akhale ngati ana ena, m'malo mwake, zoletsedwa zilizonse zidzapangitsa kusamvetsetsana.

Kutsanzira nthawi yachinyamata

Funso lovuta kwambiri la chitsanzo cha kutsanzira limakwera mu nthawi ya kutha msinkhu. Ino ndiyo nthawi yomwe anyamata ndi atsikana amadziwika okha, koma momwe anthu amakhalabe atangoyamba kumene. Ndizotheka ngati abale kapena alongo achikulire, makolo, atha kukhala ulamuliro. Koma tifunika kumvetsetsa kuti mwanayo nthawi zonse amakhala pamalo ammudzi, ndipo kusukulu padzakhala anthu omwe amawoneka ndi "ozizira". Kwa anyamata, awa ndiwo anyamata omwe amanyoza aphunzitsi ndi maphunziro, kumwa mowa ndi kusuta. Kwa atsikana, chitsanzo chotsanzira ndi nthawi zambiri atsikana omwe amawoneka bwino, osakhala ndi zodzikongoletsera, kuvala zovala zotseguka komanso zosangalatsa ndikusangalala ndi anyamata. Ngati mwana wanu wamkazi wachitsanzo chabwino adasintha mwinjiro wake kuti asakhale woyenera, mumalingaliro anu, iye ali watsopano, wamkulu kuposa iye, abwenzi ake - musamawope. Koma sitiyenera kupatukana.

Mmene mungafotokozere zabwino ndi zoipa

Ana amamvera malangizo a omwe amalemekeza. Ngati inu mumasuta ndi chinenero choipa, koma musalephere kuchita chimodzimodzi kwa mwana wanu, musati mudikire kumvera kosagwirizana. Komanso, onetsetsani kuti simungamvetse. Ngati mumadziona kuti ndinu chitsanzo chabwino kwa mwana wanu, nthawi zambiri mumatha kukambirana momasuka. Koma palibe chifukwa chake musamawerenge zomwe mukuwerengazo komanso musakhale zomwe mwanayo angasangalale nazo. Makhalidwe anu ayenera kusinthidwa bwino. Mwachitsanzo, ikhoza kukhala nthano kuchokera pazochitikira zanu kapena zochitika za anzanu.

Pafupifupi: "Panali mtsikana mkalasi mwathu wofanana kwambiri ndi Tanya wanu, wokongola kwambiri kuposa kale lonse, ndi abwenzi okalamba kuposa anyamata, ndipo tsopano, mu kalasi ya khumi, ndinatenga mimba kuchokera kwa wina amene anabala mwana, koma sanaphunzire. Ife mumsika ngati wogulitsa, tikuwoneka moopsya. " Musapite pambali pamaganizo, monga "mukuona, mupitiliza kulingana nawo, sakudziwa chomwe chidzakuchitikirani", mwinamwake mwanayo adzawona mwadzidzidzi. M'malo mosiyana ndi nkhaniyi, musiyeni nkhaniyo isamalize, lolani mwana wanu kuti afotokoze mwachidule "lipoti" lanu ndipo mutenge nokha zomwe zili zabwino ndi zomwe siziri.

Mukamatsanzira akuluakulu

Ambiri amakhulupirira kuti kutsanzira mwachindunji ndi udindo wa ana kapena achinyamata. Ziribe kanthu momwe izo ziriri! Otsanzira kwambiri ndi "akulu", ndiko kuti, omwe ali ndi zaka makumi awiri mphambu zisanu ndi ziwiri .. Chowonadi ndi chakuti mwana wosadziwika ndi wachibadwa. Koma munthu amene watha msinkhu, ayenera kumvetsa kuti iye ndi ndani! Osati zophweka. Pakukula, aliyense wa ife, mulimonsemo, akusowa chitsanzo. Ngati sichinapambane, pamapeto pake tidzatha kuzindikira izi, chifukwa moyo sudzakhala monga mwa lingaliro lathu, ndipo njira yosavuta yosinthira idzasintha. Pomwepo funso limabwera pakupeza chitsanzo, ndiyeno kutsanzira ena kumakhala yankho. Timasankha mosadziŵa winawake kuchokera kwa anthu omwe timadziwana nawo omwe amawoneka kuti ndi opambana, okongola, osasinthasintha, ndipo timayambanso kufotokoza kalembedwe ndi njira yake ya moyo, poyambira zizoloŵezi zochepa zomwe timachita ndi kumaliza ndi mawonekedwe.

Ntchito zina zonse ndi otanganidwa

Kutsanzira ndi mwayi wokhala ndi chidaliro m'dziko lomwe mulibe malamulo a moyo. Chimene makolo athu adatiuza tili mwana, mphunzitsi, akutsutsidwa ndi zomwe takumana nazo pamoyo wathu. Timamvera malangizo a ena, sitingachite popanda izo, komabe moyo wathu sungakhale ngati wina aliyense. Kupambana kwathu konse, zolephera, masiku osangalatsa ndi mdima kwambiri mwa iwo ndi zotsatira za khalidwe lathu, ndipo palibe wina aliyense. Pamene mukuyang'ana ena ndikuyang'ana chitsanzo chabwino, moyo wanu, osati munthu wina, umadutsa. Chinthu chokha chowona chomwe chiripo ndicho kukhala wekha. Komabe, izi ndi zoona, ndizovuta kwambiri.

Chinthu chovuta komanso chophweka kwambiri ndi kukhala nokha

Nchifukwa chiyani zimakhala zovuta kukhala wekha? Chowonadi ndi chakuti ndiye iwe udzayenera kunyamula kwathunthu zochita zako zonse. Mukatsanzira ena, mwadala kapena ayi, mumasintha udindo wina kwa akuluakuluwa. Ngati chinachake chikulakwika m'moyo, mutha kudziuza nokha mutonthozo: "Ndizo zonse chifukwa ndinatenga chitsanzo kuchokera kwa munthu wolakwika." Pakalipano, mutha kulingalira ngati munthu ngati muli okonzeka kukhala ndi udindo pazochita zanu zonse. Zimatuluka, pokhala wamkulu, kutsanzira ndi njira yopulumukira udindo, ndipo palibe china.