Kutamanda kwa anyamata. Kodi zimatanthauza chiyani kwa munthu kuyamika?

Njira yopanda mavuto yochepetsera chidwi ndi mnyamata amene mumamukonda ndi kulankhula momveka bwino, kugwira pa mafunso omwe sali ofunika kwa iye. Poyang'ana pa zoyenera zake, mudzazindikira mosavuta ndi ubwenzi.

Mmodzi mwa maulendo a Dale Carnegie (wolemba buku lodziwikiratu polimbikitsa anthu) amanenedwa kuti munthu aliyense, mosasamala kanthu za udindo wake ndi ntchito yake, amakonda anthu omwe amamuyamikira.

Oimira chigawo cholimba cha umunthu ndi chimodzimodzi. Pafupifupi anthu onse amafunitsitsa kuti azikhala osangalatsa. Ndipo amuna, mwa njira, ali oposa atsikana (omwe awonongedwa ndi mayamiko), ngakhale kuti sakuvomereza. Choncho, kugwiritsa ntchito njira yotereyi komanso yophweka, momwe mungalankhulire kwa anyamata, msungwana aliyense angapeze mnyamata yemwe amamukonda.

Wina wa Carnegie's aphorisms amanena kuti kukondweretsa munthu wina ndiko kumuuza zomwe amadziganizira. Ndipotu, n'zosatheka kupeza munthu amene saganizira bwino za iye yekha komanso za makhalidwe ake, omwe mwina alibe.

Koma kupembedzedwa kwa kukondweretsa kumasiyana. Kuthokozedwa kwa anyamata sayenera kutchulidwa pa chitsanzo, pokhapokha pazochitika zina, pamene mwaulemu akufuna kuwona kusintha kwa mawonekedwe akunja. Mwachitsanzo, kuti mwamuna ali ndi tsitsi labwino kwambiri kapena akuwoneka bwino lero. Mu munthu aliyense, matamando ndi amene adalitchula amakhala osungidwa. Ndipo, ndithudi, kuyamikira kwa anyamata ayenera kukhala koyenera, pachiyambi ndipo osawaika pa zovuta. Tiye tikambirane zina.

Kutamanda kwa anyamata si kosiyana kwambiri ndi kuyamikira kwa atsikana. Poyamba, zikuwoneka, achinyamata sali okhudzidwa ndi maonekedwe awo ngati hafu yokongola yaumunthu, koma izi siziri zoona. Ngati munthu akusintha fano lake kapena amavala pang'ono mosiyana, ngakhale pamsinkhu wosamvetsetseka yemwe akufuna kuti awoneke ndikuyamikiridwa bwino mwa kupereka chiyamiko. Onetsetsani kuti mumamuuze za izo - ndipo mudzawona kuti adzakondwera ndipo lonjezo lanu lidzawonetsedwa.

Mukamapereka chiyamiko kwa mnyamata, ganizirani umunthu wake. Mawu anu ayenera kumveka moona mtima, chifukwa zonyansa nthawi zonse zimawonekeratu - ndipo zotsatira zomwe zikuyembekezeka zingakhale zotsutsana. Ndi chidwi chodziwika, onani, mwachitsanzo, nyumba yosungiramo malingaliro, chisangalalo chodabwitsa, mawonekedwe achimuna, maso okongola, ndi zina zotero. Chinthu chachikulu chokha sichiyenera kupitirira.

Ndibwino kuti muphunzire momwe mungamvere. Apanso, tiyeni titembenukire ku Carnegie. Interlocutor yabwino kwambiri ndi amene amatha kumvetsera mwatcheru. Ndipo izo zakhala nazo kale. Mwinamwake mulibe mnzanu wambiri, koma mvetserani zomwe akunena, ndipo ngakhale simunena mawu, akufunabe kukumana nanu ndikuyankhula. Ndi pamene mungaphatikize zida zanzeru zazimayi - zoyamikirika kwa mnyamata ngati njira yosunthira kukakamiza mnyamata amene mumamukonda.

Kutamanda kwa mnyamata wokondedwa, ndithudi, kumveka kochepetsetsa, koma apa pali danga lotanthauzira ndi kulongosola chikondi! Musaleke kuyamikira wokondedwa wanu - malingaliro ake, zochita zake, kudzipereka kwake, torso yake yokongola ndi makhalidwe ake ena. Kawirikawiri amalankhulana ndi munthu wokondedwa wanu, ndipo izi zidzakulitsa kudzidalira kwake - nthawi zonse amayesetsa kuti azikhala bwino, wofatsa, wachikondi, wokondedwa, wokongola, wosamvetsetseka komanso komwe amamvetsera maganizo ake ndi chidaliro chake. Kwa mtsikana wachikondi, n'zosavuta kuchita, chifukwa wokondedwa alibe zolakwa, koma ndi ulemu chabe, ndipo iyi ndi axiom yovomerezeka kwa nthawi yaitali.

Osavuta, atsikana okondedwa, ndipo kumbukirani kuti nthawizonse mumasankha, mosiyana ndi maganizo omwe amuna amasankha.