Momwe mungaphunzire kuyankhulana

Tonsefe m'moyo wathu wa tsiku ndi tsiku timalumikizana, ndi munthu yekhayo amene ali ndi mabwenzi ambiri ndi anzake, ndipo wina amakhala yekha maholide onse kunyumba. Chinthuchi ndi chakuti anthu ena amatha kulankhulana ndikukhala okondweretsa, ndipo ena samadziwa momwe angalankhulire malingaliro awo ndipo nthawi zambiri amagwirizanitsa mawu awiri.

Pankhani imeneyi, pali funso lofunika kwambiri: "Momwe mungaphunzire kuyankhulana?".

Choyamba, ndi bwino kumvetsera chikhalidwe cha chikhalidwe cha munthu, chifukwa ngati iye sakudziwa pang'ono ndipo alibe chidwi ndi chirichonse, iye sangathe kukhala wokondweretsa interlocutor ndipo adzatha kukambirana. Kwa omwe adasankha kupeza yankho la funso la momwe angaphunzire kuyankhulana, m'pofunika koyamba kuti awerenge zambiri, kuti azikhala ndi chidwi ndi nkhani komanso makamaka zomwe zikuchitika padziko lapansi. Palibe amene akunena kuti muyenera kudziŵa mwatsatanetsatane za zonse zomwe zikuchitika mu ndale za mayiko a dziko lachitatu, koma nkhani yayikulu yomwe inanenedwa kuti Papa anakana mpandowachifumu, uyenerabe kupereka kapena kuthandizira zokambirana ngati kampaniyo Wina adzakhudza pa mutu womwewo.

Muyenera kusonyeza chidwi chenicheni kwa anthu ena. Gwirizanani, ngati simukutsutsana ndi zambiri zomwe zanenedwa ndipo simusamala kuti chiweto chanu chikudwala kwambiri ndi chiweto chanu, ndiye mwamsanga simudzakhala wosayanjana ndi mnzanuyo, ndipo sakumbukira ngakhale kuti sanakuitanani kapena kutchulidwa mu cafe ndi Anzanga.

Kuti muphunzire kuyankhulana, muyenera kuzindikira ulemu wa munthu wina, mutha kumutamanda ndi kuwalola anthu kumverera kuti ndi apadera komanso ofunika.

Tonsefe tikudziwa, koma chifukwa chiyani tiyenera kutsutsa ena, koma kuti timvetsetse bwino komanso osatsutsa anthu omwe tikufunikira kuphunzira, koma ndi njira iyi yomwe idzakutsogolereni ku cholinga chofunika - kumvetsetsa momwe mungaphunzire kulankhula.

Kumbukirani chojambula chokhudza kambuku kamene kakuimba nyimbo "kuchokera ku kumwetulira dziko lidzakhala lowala"? Kotero chinyama ichi chojambula ndi cholondola, ndi kokwanira kukhala wochezeka ndi kumwetulira, ndipo, monga akunena, anthu angakufikireni.

Mutha kumvetsera mnzanuyo, izi zimalimbikitsa munthu kuti adziwe zambiri za iye mwini. Khalani ololera ndi kulemekeza maganizo a mdani wanu. Mawu ngati "izi sizowona," "mumamvetsa chiyani?", "Mumanena kuti ndichabechabe" kungokulekanitsani ndi kukukhumudwitsani kuchokera kwa interlocutor.

Kaŵirikaŵiri timayesa munthu, kuyerekezera yekha, koma ndani amene anati ndife oyenerera ndipo ali mu chirichonse? Koma kutsutsa maganizo ena pa moyo, timanyozetsa munthuyo mwiniwake, komatu iye ndi wina, osati ife.

Yesani kutenga malo a munthu wina. Ngati muyesera kuyang'ana zinthu ndi mawonekedwe osiyanasiyana, ngakhale mutasintha mfundo, maganizo anu ayesedwa.

Musamapangire ulemu. Kumbukirani, pamene mukufuna yankho la funso la momwe mungaphunzire kuyankhulana, muyenera choyamba kuzindikira ulemu wa munthu wina, osangomva, koma mvetserani maganizo a wina.

Kuyankhulana pa intaneti, pamene wogwirizanitsa ali kumbali ina ya chinsalu, ndizosiyana, chifukwa sakukuwonani, samva mau anu, samayang'ana manja anu. Chabwino, iyi ndi njira yabwino yophunzirira momwe mungasamalire malingaliro anu ndipo musayankhe mphezi mofulumira, koma dziloleni nokha kuyeza ubwino ndi kupweteka kwa yankho lirilonse. Kwa anyamata, iyi ndi njira yabwino yophunzirira kuti atsikana asamalimbikitsenso, komanso kuti ayankhe mwanzeru komanso mwaulemu, kwa azimayi ndi mwayi wokonda komanso kugonana ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha.

Kwa iwo omwe akuyang'ana momwe angayankhulire pa intaneti, pali chiwerengero chachikulu cha mitundu yonse ya malo oyankhulana ndi malo ochezera, komwe mungapeze mosavuta wogwirizanitsa zofuna zofanana. Choyamba, ndikofunika kupeza chozoloŵezi chatsopano, kujambula kapena kuchita nawo maseŵera aliwonse, izi ndi zothandiza pa thanzi, ndipo padzakhala mutu wa zokambirana.

Kulankhulana wina ndi mzake ndi kukumbukira kuti ndikofunika kwambiri kukhalabe ndi maganizo abwino mu moyo ndi kukhala munthu wokondana.