Kumata wosweka chikho kapena mmene polumikiza kugona ndi mwamuna wake

Banja lililonse mwina mavuto ndi kumvana. Ndi - akukhuzidwa ndi ndondomeko. Kani, izo zimapangitsa alonda wangwiro ubwenzi kwa banja. Ndipotu anthu angwiro kulibe, choncho chotero idyll banja zoona, kungakhale mwaluso akusewera farce. Nawa chabe zisudzo kumapeto kwa sewerolo palibe mitima yosweka ndi matenda a maganizo. Ngati moyo wanu ndi okondedwa anu kunachitika kale matenda, musataye mtima. Ndi bwino kuti modekha kupenda zochitikazo ndi moona funsolo mmene angakhalire bwino ndi mwamuna wake, kaya ndi ofunika kuchita konse?

Nyengo ya masautso ndi chikondi, woyamba okondwa palimodzi ankakhala miyezi ndipo ngakhale zaka bwinobwino kubisala kwa ife zolakwa za wokondedwa. Ndiko kuti, ndithu, ife tikuzindikira kuti mwamuna wakeyo ali ndi mphamvu kapena amakonda kumwa mwauchidakwa usiku mu gulu la alendo wokongola, koma kunong'oneza bwino chikumbumtima yomweyo: iye - mwamuna weniweni, ndipo iye - moyo wa kampani. M'kupita kwa nthawi, izi "ubwino" akusinthika mu zolakwa zolaula akukhala yoonekera, kuyamba chifukwa mkwiyo, umene uli chizindikiro choyamba cha mavuto m'banja. Ngati zolakwika kuti mkazi kapena mwamuna wanu mwadzidzidzi anakhala mumamva inu, ganizirani izi: mwina ayenera kutenga yopuma ndi kupenda zochitikazo.

Koma ngati ubale zoipa ndi mwamuna wake anachititsa, kani, mavuto a m'banja, kutopa ambiri, kapena kusowa zomwe gulu, asungidwe zimadalira akazi onse. Zikatere, zamaganizo amalangiza kupereka mzake nthawi yayitali. Komanso akhoza osati kuyenda kapena kuyenda mu odyera kapena zisudzo. Aliyense kuthekera zabwino, wofatsa kumwetulira kapena kukhudza - sitepe yoyamba kwa kumvana.

Pofuna kudziwa mmene bwino ndi mwamuna wake, zingakhale zothandiza zotsatirazi maganizo thupi. Nagawira pepala m'magulu 2, ndime 1 n'kofunika kulowa makhalidwe a mnzanuyo kuti mukumufuna, ndipo 2 - amene mukufuna kuzisintha. Tiyeni mumaikonda kuchita chimodzimodzi. Ngati "zabwino" gawo lili ndi mfundo zambiri, chifukwa nkhawa si kwambiri - wina mavuto ang'onoang'ono zinachitika, mwina wakutheker kugonjetsa. Kuleza mtima, zabwino mtima ndi latsopano Tafotokozani kuthandiza kuti ndi nkhani wosakhwima. Koma ngati "zoipa" mtsogoleri - ndi zoopsazi chizindikiro zikusonyeza kuti m'banja mwanu muli mavuto aakulu.

Kodi polumikiza kugona ndi mwamuna wake mu zinthu zovuta? Mungayesere kuwona zamaganizo, koma kumbukirani kuti kuthetsa mavuto awo m'banja adzatha monga inu ndi mnzanuyo. Choyamba, kuphunzira kulankhula chinenero chimodzi. Ganizilani zimene kalembedwe khalidwe muyenera kusankha nkhani wamba ndi wokondedwa. Mwina nthawi zambiri ntchito chifanizo cha kholo kapena mwana, ndi bwenzi lanu akuyesera amakusangalatsani pa mlingo wosiyana. Koma muzilankhulana bwino m'banja chofunika, monga osachepera, ndi "mawu" ndi uthunthu ofanana ndi mfundo. Werengani zambiri za mungaphunzire pa ntchito za yamaganizo American Erika Berna.

Kachiwiri, m'pofunika amene tayenda naye maganizo anu zimene samakonda. Koma kunena amati mwaulemu, popanda maganizo zosafunika negative. Ndipotu, cholinga chanu - kumvetsa mmene kumanga ubale ndi mwamuna wake ndipo kuti tifulumizane kumuyalutsa wina. Choncho, yankho chidole yesani kuzindikira mwakachetechete, kuyesera kuyang'ana pa nkhondo "ndi kunja" ndi mokwanira adazindikira kutsutsa.

Pamaso kuyankha funso: mmene ubale ndi mwamuna wake, ndikuganiza - zimene mukufuna kwenikweni. Mungasankhe: ana, osati kukhala ndekha, kuti kuwononga banja, kukhala membala weniweni umene anthu - sadzailandira. Pali yankho limodzi lokha mwamtheradi zolondola, ndipo izo zikumveka ngati izi: Ine ndimakukondani ndi kulemekeza mwamuna wanga ndife okonzeka kuti tithane ndi mavuto onse, monga malingaliro athu mwagwirizana kwenikweni zedi.