Kodi kupulumuka kukhumudwa pa anthu?

moyo wathu wonse - misonkhano mosalekeza ndi malekano. Ndi achibale athu, anzathu, abwenzi, mzinda ndi dziko ntchito ndipo ntchito yake. Kukhumudwa ndi munthu ife tinadalira, tingakhale phunziro labwino. Kapena kuwononga moyo, kuchititsa pachilonda. Ndingatani kupulumutsa immediacy nzeru ndi kudzipereka, ndipo kudziteteza ku ululu? Kapena kanthu pa mfundo ya "Musaulule amene sakhulupirira aliyense"? Koma popeza N'zosatheka kuti moyo.

Zokhumudwitsa anthu mwina chifukwa palibiretu chinyengo wake kapena otsika kuchita. Ndipotu kwambiri akhoza kumva ndi kukhululukidwa. Mphamvu kuposa ife nkhawa kuti m'pofunika kusintha maganizo kwawo. Zokhumudwitsa mwa munthu nthawi zonse zinadzala ndi maganizo ndi malingaliro - ndi zambiri chifukwa chakuti sitidziwa pano wake, amene analenga khalidwe fictitious. Mismatching wa fano ili ndi timayembekezera ndipo amachititsa kuipidwa kwambiri ndi kuwawa.

Quotes za kukhumudwa chifukwa cha anthu zimatiphunzitsa mtima wanzeru ndi omasuka kuti kufooka. Mwachitsanzo, mmodzi wa iwo anati: "Chikhulupiriro chimatithandiza kuti moyo Zokhumudwitsa adatiphunzitsa ife kuganiza.". Koma Churchill anakonza lingaliro penapake mosiyana: "Ngati ndinu okhoza angakhumudwe - kotero inu mukadali wamng'ono." Taganizirani mawu awa; pakuti iwo ndiwo oona ndi zoseketsa. Wosakhazikika ndi olamulirawo kukhulupirira kuti dziko sangapatsidwe - ndi mtundu wa moyo ukalamba.

Zokhumudwitsa anthu zimatheka pamene ife tikukhulupirira ena. Ndingatani angakonzekere bwanji? Kuvala zodzitetezera? Tikhonza kukhala kulolerana ndi mphamvu kukhululukira. Kukhumudwa mu wokondedwa ndi mofananira kuwonongedwa kwa fano la mulungu. Ngati tiona munthu amene ali wokondedwa kwa ife, osati monga Pokhala abwino, koma ngati munthu wamba ndi mphamvu zake zonse ndi zofooka, tidzakhala zosavuta kuvomereza machimo awo.

Kodi adakali apulumuke kukhumudwa chifukwa cha anthu? Bwanji kuti anakwiyira ndipo sanali kudana naye? Nthawizina izo zimawoneka kuti zimenezi n'zosatheka. Chinyengo ndi kuuma wavulala. Koma m'pake kuyesa kupatukana mwa iye yekha mtima kumene kumapangitsa izi kapena kuti kachitidwe, lingaliro lanu la munthu kuchokera zosowa zenizeni ndi zinthu. Kodi mundikwiyira kapena akuvutika ndi mfundo yakuti winawake pafupi ndi sanachite momwe inu kuyembekezera? Kodi analankhula za inu zambiri zoipa kapena amakumana zina / ena? Yesani kupenda zochitikazo ku njira ina. Pajatu, munthu uyu anali kukumana zoyembekezera zanu ndiponso kuganiza, ndipo sachita zikuwoneka bwino kwa iye? Ndipotu, inu nokha chikanadzakhala chophweka kwambiri zokhululukira machimo ndi zolakwa. Chifukwa mutha kuona nokha. Kotero yesetsani kumvetsa onse. Kodi kum'chotsa? Kodi zolinga anaima pamaso pake? Ndithu, iye sanayese makamaka kukhumudwitsa inu kapena kupweteka.

Sitifunikira overstate mowa, udzafunidwa moyo zonse mwakamodzi. Mu unyamata wake, ndife odzala ndi ziyembekezo ndi maloto. Ngakhale tokha, sitingathe kuzindikira moyenera. Maganizo kukhwima akuwonetseredwa mu choona kuti moyo ndi chabe. Kuvomereza monga izo ziri. Pakati pa olamulirawo ndi okwana kukayikira duwa ndichiyembekezo malo moona wamkulu. Kukhala pano, ndi kuzungulira iwo, kutenga dziko, iwowo ndiponso anthu ena.