Amene poyamba amapereka dzanja lake pamene moni zodyera?

Pamsonkhano anaganiza chanza. Izi zikusonyeza omasukirana, mtima wofunitsitsa kusonkhana. Koma ngakhale ndi anthu chanza amene amadziona ophunzira, kutsatira malamulo pa nkhani ya amene akutenga dzanja loyamba pamene moni. Kodi zodyera n'kukulemberani?

Chiyani anaganiza kutalikitsa dzanja pamisonkhano?

Mwambo kugwirana manja pamsonkhano anabwera kwa ife kuchokera kalelo. Ndipo nthawi iliyonse manja zimachitika makhalidwe osiyana. Pali kungoganizira kuti osatukuka a amuna chanza anali ngati mayesero a mphamvu: amene mwamphamvu chanza, iye ndi wamphamvu. Choncho mwachidule duel anayamba phunziro lililonse. Mu ena mafuko ena wofunitsitsa kulalikira kwa anthu anasonyeza chiyero cha zolinga zake: dzanja lotambasulidwa, makhwatha lotseguka, palibe zida, kotero kukhala osamala mwa munthu uyu si koyenera.

Mu Roma, anthu ali okhoza ayizembe, ndipo dzanja yaitali sikuti amatanthauza ubwanawe. Ankhondo anaphunzira kubisa mpeni yaing'ono malaya ake, ndipo iye sakanakhoza kuwona mu kugwirana chanza yachibadwa. Choncho, kufotokozera anatchula mwambo kugwedeza dzanja, osati kanjedza. Poyamba, ichi chidachitika pa zifukwa chitetezo, pamenepo kukhala mwambo: pamene iwo ankakomana naye munthu ndi manja ake pa mlingo m'chiuno, kufinya dzanja wina ndi mnzake.

Koma Japan asilikaliwo chanza pamaso nkhondo, ndi manja analankhula kwa mdani: ". Konzani kufa"

Phindu la chanza lero

M'masiku amenewo anthu sanali kofunika kwa munthu amene poyamba chanza. Anavomera ndipo malamulo malamulo amakhalidwe abwino chanza anali ndi m'zaka za m'ma 19. Tumikirani wina ndi mnzake akhoza amuna okha, akazi, ndi manja sanali wachilendo ndi ankaona osasamala. Kenako, kugwirana chanza unakhala wotchuka m'deralo malonda: izo manowa zambiri, kusonyeza malo a kulankhulana. Today kale palibe cholakwika kwa chanza ndi dona, makamaka ngati zimachitika pokhazikitsa ntchito.

Mwambo chanza pamene msonkhano ndi ambiri mu Europe ndi America. Mu Asia, iye si otchuka: amaona chizindikiro ulemu kapena kugwadira zina manja lopinda. Koma mu mabwalo malonda Asian chanza yoyenera kwambiri.

Malamulo a ulemu pamene chokumanako

Nthawi zambiri, munthu sangathe kuimira iye yekha: iye ayenera kugonjera. Man amadalira woimira akazi. Anthu osakwanitsa zaka - anthu, akuluakulu. Munthu chinkhoswe mu udindo wapamwamba anthu, ndi amene ali pa msinkhu m'munsi. Amaona chizindikiro cha kuswana bwino. Ngati mukufuna kukumana ntchito kapena abwenzi, banja lanu, iwo amatchedwa mwamuna / mkazi ndi ana, ndi wodziwa makolo awo ali abwenzi kapena anzake monga chizindikiro ulemu kwa anthu achikulire. Amene choyamba akukamba dzanja pamsonkhano? Ndi munthu amene akuimira ena, mosasamala kanthu za jenda ndi zaka.

Ndingatani anagonjera ndekha?

Kodi pali zochitika zina pamene munthu koyenera kuti atchule nokha alendo? Inde, n'zotheka Mwachitsanzo, pa malonda chakudya, phwando chipani n'cholinga kugwirizananso malonda. Pankhaniyi, analoledwa kukambirana chidwi, timathandiza nokha, ntchito foni ndi kampani, ndi kukwaniritsa ntchito khadi.

Ngati mukufuna kuyambitsa mkazi amene ali mu gulu la amuna, tiyenera kukumana koyamba ndi beau iye, ndiyeno kokha umaimiridwa ndi dona.

Ubwenzi si kugwirana chanza. Nkofunika bwino chikhalidwe, ndi kumwetulira ake ndi maso mwachindunji mu nkhope ya interlocutor lapansi. Kupeŵa maso awo uku chibwenzi imatengedwa mawonekedwe oipa.

Zingapo "ayi" kapena Kodi kupeŵa kuwasindikiza ndi mbuli

Inde, umbuli wa zinthu izi m'chaching'ono tikhoza kuika munthu wosadziwa masekondi. Choncho, pamene kukumana ndi msonkhano uliwonse, malinga ndi malamulo ambiri amavomereza ulemu sayenera:

• osati chanza wotambasula (izi zikhoza amaona chipongwe kwambiri);
• kugwirana chanza, kusunga ena mu thumba lanu;
• dzanja ankaweruza ndudu (zambiri zofunika kuti khasu uliwonse, makamaka pamene chanza);
• kusiya dzanja lake gloved moni ndi dona (mkaziyo akhoza kusiya mogwirizana, ngati gawo la chimbudzi, mogwirizana, mitten koma osati!);
• ayang'ana pozungulira pansi kapena mmwamba, kusonyeza mphwayi;
• pamene kukumana ndi gulu la anthu kugwirana chanza ndi mmodzi yekha wa iwo;
• kukhala pansi pamene anakumana ndi mkazi kapena munthu wachikulire, makamaka ngati ali pa nthawi yomweyo;
• Sindikudziwa malamulo wamba amene akukamba dzanja koyamba kwa chanza ndi.

Moni pamsonkhano zosayembekezereka

Pafupifupi ola lililonse, ife tikukulandirani aliyense: oyandikana pa masitepe, ndi wogulitsayo, amene m'mawa uliwonse timagula khofi, anzawo, achibale kapena anzawo basi, achibale ... amene poyamba amapereka dzanja lake pamene moni? Kodi tisamaganizire nokha kapena bwenzi kovuta? Taonani zina.

Ngati abwenzi anakumana pa msewu kapena malo onse, simukhala kwambiri mwachiwawa kufotokoza maganizo awo ndi kukopa chidwi cha anthu ena. Kuona munthu bwino patali, tikhoza asagwiritse kugwedeza kapena funde la dzanja. Ngati mtunda walola, zoyenerera chanza ndi kuwombola lalifupi mawu (musayambe kukambirana yaitali, munthu akhoza kukhala mofulumira). Amene poyamba amapereka dzanja lake pa msonkhano? Zodyera amafuna kanthu kuti anthu akuluakulu kapena kutenga malo zofunika kwambiri anthu.

Pamene kukumana ndi munthu kundikumbatira yoyenera mwachidule, pats, kundipsompsona, ngakhale m'mayiko ena pa tsaya kapena chosonyeza "tsaya kuti tsaya". Koma ngati inu inadza bwenzi malonda, munthu wamkulu kuposa inu kapena chosonyeza bwino zosonyezera kutengeka angathe kuonedwa monga ankadziwa.

Kodi mkazi woyamba kugwirana chanza?

Amene poyamba amapereka dzanja lake, mwamuna kapena mkazi? Lembani dzanja la kugwirana chanza angakhoze kokha dona. Amuna kukhulupirira kapena kugwedeza dzanja lotambasula, kapena kuti milomo yake kwa kukupsopsonani. Kale kunali kololedwa kumpsompsona dzanja la chabe dona kapena kukwatiwa, koma mu malamulo amakono abwino palibe chiletso amenewa.

Moni sadzachitanso mnzanga

Kodi ndikufunika kulandira anthu sadzachitanso bwino? Inde! Ngakhale ngati inu sindikukumbukira dzina la munthuyo kapena sangathe kukumbukira pamene iwo anawona nkhope yake, bwino komabe kukhala aulemu ndi kunena moni. Kumene, mu nkhani iyi ndi kunena moni, kugwedeza kapena kukweza chipewa. mawonetseredwe Mafunde chimwemwe adzayang'ana oyenerera, choncho safuna iwo.

Moni pamsonkhano munakonza

Tiyerekeze izo zifika ku misonkhano anzathu pa phwando, pa malo odyera, pa phwando la boma zisudzo, malo boma. Ichi ndi mwayi kukumana kuthawa ndi kupita chochitika, munthu amadziwa amene iye akakumana kumeneko. Kodi khalidwe ndi amene akukamba dzanja woyamba pamisonkhano? Pankhaniyi, loyamba ndi kunena moni kudalira, amene ali wamng'ono kapena zochepa amatenga ofesi. Koma pamene izo zifika amene anali woyamba amatenga dzanja - okalamba kapena junior - amati izi zikusonyeza amene achikulire.

Malamulo kulandira alendo

Pamene iye anabwera kudzandiona, m'pofunika kuti moni kwa mwini nyumba, ndi pamaso pa alendo. Mwini ayenera kugwirana chanza ndi moni ndi ena, n'zotheka kuchepetsa uta ndi kulandiridwa mawu. Hostess yoyenera kumpsompsona dzanja lake.

Akakumana ndi gulu la anthu Sikuti kugwirana chanza ndi aliyense mwachilungamo ambiri prostration. Koma ngati inu kugwirana chanza wina wa anthu awa, muyenera kugwedeza ndi china chirichonse. Amene poyamba amapereka dzanja lake pamene moni mu nkhani iyi? Aliyense amene wakudza gulu. Magolovesi ayenera kuchotsedwa pamaso manja, komanso mipango.

Ngati muli ndi kunena moni kwa anthu atakhala pa tebulo, chizindikiro cha khalidwe loipa ankaona kukoka manja ake pa tebulo. Aulemu kuchepetsa moni wapakamwa kapena n'kuwerama pang'ono.

Vuto limene anthu moni wina ndi mzake ndi mosiyana kwambiri mu m'badwo, funso zambiri lakuti: amene poyamba amapereka dzanja lake - wamkulu kapena wamng'ono? Malamulo a boma zodyera kuti kugwirana chanza kanthu tingasonyeze yekha wamkulu. Ulamuliro N'chimodzimodzinso anthu amene tili pamisinkhu yosiyanasiyana ya makwerero ntchito: dzanja atagwira kunja amene ali apamwamba mu udindo.

Malamulo moni malonda

ulemu phunziro ntchito mfundo zachikhalidwe. Moni poyamba ankaganiza kuti iwo pansipa waudindo. Ngati munthu amalowa chipinda, kumene gulu la anthu moni ukubwera choyamba - mosasamala kanthu za udindo kapena zaka.

Amene poyamba amapereka dzanja lake pamene moni pa kulankhulana malonda? Pofuna n'zosiyana, mfundo ya "pamwamba pansi". Tiyenera tisaiwale Tinganene: chanza munthu anganene manja chomwecho kwa anthu ena. Apo ayi, ayenera kuchepetsa mawu aulemu ndi mutu wamba.

Kapoloyu akulowa ofesi ya mkulu, yotsirizira akhoza tisasokoneze zochita zawo kapena kumayankhula, koma ndi malamulo a ulemu ayenera kulandira newcomer ndi mawu kapena manja. Zimenezi n'zosiyana, pamene bwana abwera kapolo, akukhulupirira pakamwa kukambirana kapena malonda (ngati aliyense, ndipo iyo lidali poyerekezera ndi mkhalapakati) ndipo kulabadira kwa mutu.

Yolumikiza

Zodyera - nkhani wosakhwima, koma n'zomveka ndithu, chifukwa malamulo onse amakhalidwe abwino imvera chinthu chimodzi: kuti asakhumudwitse munthu wina kuchita zinthu zina kulankhulana anali ndi matanthauzo yosangalatsa. Ngati inu mwayi woti kusochera mu udindo ndi zaka, ngati mukuopa kuti wamwano, mwangozi kuwawa, muyenera kukumbukira wina ulamuliro more: kwambiri aulemu kukhala amene anali woyamba amatenga dzanja mu kugwirana chanza ndi munthu woyamba, moni wina amene woyamba agwire. Ngati mukukayika, kunena moni kapena ayi - moni, kapena kuti kusamalira - Tambasula. Tiyeni inu kudali munthu amene aiwala ena suoneka zodyera, koma okoma mtima ndi ulemu.

Koma pali m'modzi yosavuta chiwembu kuthandiza kumbukirani amene amadalira woyamba moni ndi amene ayenera kukhala woyamba kugwirana chanza ndi zodyera lapansi. Moni pa mfundo "kuyambira wamng'ono mpaka wamkulu" (junior - ndi mkulu Kumvetsela - bwana, munthu - mkazi). Timathandiza pa mfundo "kuchokera kwambiri osachepera" monga kugwirana chanza - mtundu wa mwayi, analemekeza chizindikiro, ndipo kuti kuchita zimenezi amadalira kwambiri "zofunika" munthu (Senior amatambasula wamng'ono, bwana - wamng'ono, akazi - amuna).

Kuwonjezera kugwirana chanza, musaiwale za zoitanira mau okoma, manja ndi okhala akumwetulira - mtheradi lipenga khadi mu alankhulane!