Zomwe mungayankhule ndi bwenzi: Kodi ndingabwezeretse ubwenzi wazimayi wosokonezeka

Kodi mungayankhe ndi chibwenzi chanu? Zikuwoneka kuti dzulo panalibe zinsinsi pakati pa inu, mukhoza kugawana chilichonse ndi wina ndi mzake, ndipo lero mumakhala alendo kwa wina ndi mnzake. Kodi n'zotheka kubwezeretsa ubale wakale, ndipo kawirikawiri, ndi koyenera kuchita?

Chifukwa chiyanjano chaima

Kwenikweni, ngati panalibe mikangano yovuta ngati nkhondo ya mtima wa munthu kapena kungokangana chabe, pambuyo pake mgwirizano unatha, ubwenzi sunadutse tsiku, sabata kapena mwezi. Njirayi imayamba pang'onopang'ono ndipo ikhoza kutha miyezi ingapo, tsiku limodzi zinthu zonse zinadziwika palokha. Ngati mukuvutika kwambiri ndikuganizira zomwe mungathe kukambirana ndi bwenzi lanu, mwachiwonekere, ichi ndi chiyambi cha mapeto. Zifukwa zingapo zimathandiza kuti izi zichitike:

• Zofuna zawo zinagawanika. Izi zimachitika, mutaphunzira pamodzi, mumakhala ndi mavuto omwe mumakhala nawo, ndiye aliyense wa inu anasankha moyo wina. Mwinamwake iye wakwatiwa kale, ali ndi ana? Ndipo kukambirana kumakhudza mavuto omwe ali nawo ndi mkazi wamasiye, yemwe amapitirizabe kukwera ndi kuwononga banja la idyll. Musadzitsutse nokha kuti sizosangalatsa kwa inu, makamaka ngati simunakwatire.
• Iwe watopa basi. Zimapezeka kuti mnzanu wapamtima amayamba kugwiritsa ntchito molakwa chikhulupiliro. Inu mulibe nthawi yeniyeni ya moyo wanu, chifukwa inu mukukhala mu mavuto a anthu ena, omwe, monga lamulo, samathetsedwa, koma muzipita tsiku ndi tsiku. Pachifukwa ichi, mutha kukondana wina ndi mzake kwa kanthawi.
• Mmodzi wa inu wapereka zochuluka kuposa momwe analandira pobwezera. Lamulo lomwelo limagwiritsidwa ntchito kwa abwenzi aakazi, osati kwa wokondedwa. Bwenzi lapamtima limakugwirani mavuto, mumakhala chovala chanu, ndipo mavuto anu amakakamizika kuti musankhe nokha. Taonani, kodi mukufunikira mnzanu wotere? Kodi mungayankhe ndi chibwenzi chanu?
• Kusagwirizana kwa mumtima. Ndi bwenzi zimakhala zovuta kuti mukhale pafupi, izi sizikukukondani. Mukung'ung'udza kuchokera momwe akulankhulira kwa inu kapena kwa mwamuna wake, bwenzi, mwinamwake anayamba kutuluka mwachinyengo ndikupanga zamatsenga, ndipo n'zovuta kuti mukhale pafupi.

Momwe mungayanjanitsire ndi chibwenzi

Patapita kanthawi ndipo mkangano unaiwalika. Koma momwe mungapangire sitepe poyanjanitsa? Chinthu chabwino kwambiri ndikuti musakumbane ndi malingaliro, koma onetsetsani kuti palibe chomwe chachitika. Lowani pa malo ochezera a pa Intaneti, SMS yosavuta pa foni ndi moni idzakhala njira yabwino. Musanayambe msonkhano wanu, ganizirani za zomwe mungayankhule ndi chibwenzi chanu chakale kuti mubwererenso.

Njira ina ndiyitanidwe "nthawi zina". Taganizirani chifukwa chabwino: tiyeni timupemphe, kuti akupatseni chophikira cha saladiyo, yomwe yophikidwa kumapeto komaliza ndipo inali yokoma kwambiri moti munaganiza kuti muwachitire okondedwa anu.

Ngati mumadziwa kuti mtsikanayo amakhala panyumba, konzekerani pang'ono, ayitaneni, nenani kuti simuli kutali ndi nyumba yake ndipo mudzabwera ndi keke, mumamwa kanyanja. Tiuzeni zomwe muli nazo, zomwe mungakambirane ndi bwenzi lanu.

Momwe mungayambire kukambirana

Kuitana kunali kupambana, ndipo potsiriza munakumana ndi wina ndi mnzake. Pa mutu uti woti mukambirane ndi mnzanu poyamba, kotero kuti kumverera kosaoneka kumatayika? Zosankha zambiri zokambirana, zomwe zingakuthandizeni pankhaniyi:

• Ganizirani fano la chibwenzi: chovala, nsapato, kudzipangira, kapena china chake;
• Funsani za kupambana kwake kapena momwe mwana wake amakulira;
• Kumbukirani chinachake chomwe chinali chabwino muubwenzi wanu;
• Kumbukirani chipangizo chofala chomwe chinakusangalatsani nthaŵi zonse.

Mvetserani kwa bwenzi lanu, kenako pitani ku mutu wokambirana bwino, chifukwa chake munamuitanira ku msonkhano. Mwinamwake, kuchokera kumsonkhano woyamba mtsikanayo ndipo asabwererenso dongosolo, koma ayezi adzakhudzidwa.

Ndi nkhani ziti zomwe ndiyenera kuzipewa?

Ngati zokambiranazo zikuyenda bwino ndipo muli ndi chinachake chokambirana ndi bwenzi lanu, palinso nkhani zomwe siziyenera kugwiritsidwa ntchito pamsonkhano woyamba pambuyo pa mkangano ndikukambirana nawo kenako, ndipo ngati n'kotheka musabwerere kwa iwo:

• Kufufuza kwa maulendo a nkhondo yapitayi: sikuli kofunika kuti tikambirane izi nthawi yomweyo, tibwererenso mpaka nthawi yomwe zonse zikhazikike, ngati mukumva kuti mukufunikira kumvetsa;
• Musasinthe chibwenzi chanu ndipo musaimitse maganizo anu pa momwe mungachitire bwino;
• Yesetsani kupewa kukambirana mkangano m'banja, choonadi chimangodziwika kwa omwe akukangana, ndipo musabwererenso ku zinyalala za wina;
• Musamuuze mnzanu za zolephera za wosankhidwayo, sizikuwoneka kuti mungafune mutu woteroyo pamalo ake, ngakhale mutakhala wolondola;
• Zina zazing'ono zomwe zimayambitsa chisokonezo kwa chibwenzi;
• Kunama za abwenzi omwe amadziwika nawo.

Ubwenzi ndi slate yoyera

Kuti musataye chibwenzi kachiwiri, nkofunika kuti musabwereze zomwe mwalakwitsa kale. Musayang'ane zolakwa zake, mutangoyamba kukhala bwenzi lanu, ndiye tsiku lina akuyenerera. Yang'anani zabwino zokhazokha muubwenzi wanu. Sangalalani chifukwa cha bwenzi lanu, mutsimikizidwe ndi zotsatira zake, fufuzani zatsopano zomwe mukugwirizana nazo zomwe zingakugwirizanitseni ndikupeza mbali zosangalatsa za wina ndi mzake, mudzakhala ndi nthawi yambiri yokambirana ndi bwenzi lanu. Ndipo aŵiri inu mukhale chitsanzo cha ubale waakazi sikuti uliko, koma ukhoza kukhala wamphamvu kwambiri kuposa wamwamuna.