Ukwati Wangwiro

zambiri A zikudalira kugwirizana analengedwa kuti cholinga cha banja, kuti Mulungu ukwati ndi bwino kapena ayi. Kodi zikutanthauza chiyani? Ngati chikondi chimapangitsa munthu wamphamvu, bwino, okongola, ngati amachepetsa awiri pamodzi kupanga coherent lonse, kotero pakati pa iwo anakhazikitsa ubwenzi bwino. Ndipo ngati inu mukonda zofunkha khalidwe la munthu ndi ntchito chachitidwa ndi iwo, ngati kuchepa mphamvu, ndipo aliyense akumverera pawekha, kugwirizana udzakhazikitsidwe pa iwo amalephera.

Good, chikondi wokongola kumabweretsa chimwemwe wapamwamba ndi kukondwa. Ngati palibe chikondi akuvutika maganizo, chisoni, kusakhutira. Kuswa chikondi popanda reciprocity, moyo wonse mikangano ndi chikondi unrequited ndi mavuto amene tikukumana nawo. Ngati munthu kusakhutira ndi moyo, kapena sakonda aliyense, kapena pachabe chikondi. Chikondi - ndi zonunkhira wa moyo, chakudya popanda mchere kunyansidwa ndi mchere wambiri - zosasangalatsa. Popeza tanthauzo chapamwamba kwambiri mu muyezo wa makamu onse kulenga, osati mwa mphamvu ntchito kulenga thupi, munthu ayenera bwino redistribute iwo, ndipo mkazi alibe ufulu kusokoneza iye ichi. The anyamata pakati pa dziko, ndi kukondana ya zakuthambo komanso kukopeka kuti analengedwa pakati okonda awiri - ichi ndi chimodzi ndi mliriwu, ozikidwa pa Space kukopeka, Mulungu wamkulu wa chikondi. Kugwirizanitsa zonse ntchito ubale n'chodalitsidwa, ngakhale Mulungu, chifukwa si chilengedwe cha moyo thupi, komanso kafalitsidwe kuwala ambiri. Ngati nchito imeneyi atenge mbali zosiyana ndi anthu amagulitsa osati thupi komanso moyo, crudely ndi kudzichepetsa maganizo ndi chikumbumtima, iwo adzakhala superfluous, ya ziwanda.

Ngati mphamvu maganizo lolunjika pa kumaliseche, apamwamba malo kugonana kubweza pansi, kenako kuima ndi kugwa chete. Pachifukwa ichi, chimaonetsera zauzimu kutsazikana ndi mankhwala apamwamba kufa. Ngati chikondi wolimbikitsa, zosiyana zimachitika: mawonekedwe apamwamba a kuthamangitsa. kupambana onse waukulu kwambiri ngongole zazikulu mphamvu za kulenga za chikondi. Kuchepetsa mu dera la zinthu zauzimu za udindo ndi kufunika kwa akazi, amuna ndi amene kukuchepetsa mwayi kulenga. Kodi cholakwa kumachitika mwa munthu? munthu ayenera zimene ali zinatenga zambiri kuposa mkulu wa chikumbumtima ndi, ndi akazi - maganizo. Pakuti batire amphamvu N'chofunikanso ndi mtima wamwamuna, amene umagwira ntchito mlongoti zabwino cha umuna ndi mkazi maganizo ndi mzati zoipa chosalimba. Kaya mphamvu analibe mtengo zabwino, ngati zoipa adzakhala ofooka, mphamvu batire adzakhala anayeza chifukwa cha zoipa. The Tinganenenso chimodzimodzi ngati mzati zoipa ndi mphamvu, ndi zabwino - ndi ofooka komabe, mphamvu batire adzakhala anayeza ndi chigawo ofooka. Izi zikutanthauza kuti ngati pa mapeto a ukwati mukufuna kupanga batire amphamvu, m'pofunika kusankha ntchito mofanana kwa mphamvu ya mphamvu sanali pachabe. Ngati amuna ndi akazi kuwunika mphamvu ndiponso luso lawo, iwo ayenera kuthandizana ngati munthu nthawi zonse zinthu zina, koma kwa gawo lalikulu ndi mbali chabe udindo amafuna. Only anzeru, ozindikira, ziwiri mano njira angapereke yankho lolondola ndi chilungamo vutoli. Popeza mkazi amakhala akumvera, n'kovuta mungalingalire mwamuna wopanda malingaliro. Choncho, munthu ayenera zambiri akumuuza mkazi kuti amamukonda. Ndipo ngati munthu chogwidwa ndi udindo wa chikumbu MAYI zambiri ayenera kuyang'ana munthu bungwe wololera, motero adzakhala zinkandisangalatsa zachabechabe wake. Munthu aliyense ayenera kudziwa zosowa za mkazi wake, kodi mavuto ake ndi zokhumba, osachepera pang'ono kukwaniritsa iwo ndi kuwatsimikizira malangizo ake wotheka. Akazi amafunika mawu abwino, malangizo abwino, ndiyeno chitetezo, onse adzakhala kupeza yokha.

Mkazi ayenera kukumbukira kuti utsogoleri posankha ali munthu. Inde, ubwino ndi chikumbumtima ndipo chiweruzo ozizira adzapereka bwino njira iliyonse nkhani zovuta.

Ngati utsogoleri posankha kusamutsa mkazi iye angasankhe mchikakamizo cha maganizo ndi zokhumba, kenako n'zotheka kuti akhoza kusokonezedwa ndi maganizo awo chikondi. Ngati munthu atapanga kusankha, mkazi mosavuta kupeza nokha, potengera zimene anasankha anapangidwa, kaya chikondi kapena cholinga apa ndi yoti muwerengere kaya akhoza osalola kapena ayi.
Mkazi kusamala kuti bondo mtsogolomo. Ngati maziko wauzimu wa munthu ndi kale anapanga, ngati munthu ali kukafuna theka lake. Pansi pa mtima, iye amadziwa kuti kuli theka wawo ndi n'zimene amam'pangitsa pa chisankho osauka. Choncho, muuzeni mosakayikira, tiyeni akumverera ndi mtima wake wonse, akaona, tiyeni kudalira maganizo ndi chikhulupiriro chakuti kwinakwake, mwina kutali, mwina pafupi kwambiri naye cholengedwa, msonkhano umene zimayamba anadikira anakonza wamoyo. Ngati msonkhano sizinachitike, ndiye, anali impeding zinthu.

Kuvomereza ubale ndi anthu ena, ife Motero kupewa izi anaoneratu msonkhano ndi theka lake. A ukwati wogwirizana ayenera kukhala lokwanira pakati pa matupi, miyoyo ndi mzimu wa anzanga. Iwo ayenera kukhala okoma wina ndi mzake mwakuthupi ndiponso anthu machesi kuuzira mzake ntchito yolenga, ndi zokhumba chomwecho, mindset zomwezo ndi maganizo omwewo, ndipo sayenera kulowerera ndi chilichonse panjira angwiro mwauzimu.

A ochuluka zedi anthu m'banja potengera maonekedwe pamene wokongola maonekedwe ndi zamaseŵera chabe gait kukhala chifukwa zosafunikira ukwati; kanthu akhoza kukhala ogwirizana mu mabanja oterowo. Chifukwa cha kuchuluka kwa maukwati otere mtundu likunyonyotsoka. Munthu ayenera tengani ukwati, ndi nzeru, amene amachitika chifukwa cha kuphunzira wokwatiwa ndi banja moyo. Studies ndi m'banja amasonyeza kuti ntchito yovuta kusewera maubwenzi abwino, chikondi, kukhulupirirana, kudzipereka ndi amenewo ^ commonality maganizo mu mgwirizano banja.

chikondi chenicheni zimapangitsa wokonda okondedwa ndi bwenzi lapamtima. Mkulu n'chikondi munthu wonyamula ndi moyo wake wonse, ndipo palibe mayeso simungawagwedeze kumverera uku, ngati anachita kwathunthu kuphedwa kwa mwambowu. Ukwati si funso lalikulu kuposa zikuwoneka. Anthu ambiri sakhulupirira kuti anthu ogwirizana wina ndi mzake osati mu moyo koma mu miyoyo ya anthu ena osati yopapatiza kugwirizana munthu, komanso ana ndi mabanja awo. Ngati banja amodzi ogwirizana ndi amphamvu wamphumphu, anabadwa ngati banja, ana amanenedwa ndi makhalidwe abwino. Ngati chilengedwe zogwirizana, ana amakula pansi bwino ndi mwayi kusintha. Makamaka ufulu kukwatira kapena kukwatiwa pamaziko a chiyanjano cha uzimu, mwinamwake mphamvu kugonana adzakhala kuchepetsa njira angwiro.

Deyl Karnegi analemba za izi: "Usachite osaphunzira pankhani za ukwati," ndipo choonadi apamwamba. Kodi tsoka kapena nkhawa anthu chifukwa cha zimenezi. Munthu ayenera kukhala bwino ndi zimene mavuto amene mungakumane moyo wa munthu mogwirizana ndi ukwati, komanso kudziwa zimene udindo watsopano ndi mwayi adzakwatiwa. Tiyenera kudziwa kuti akunena za moyo, nyenyezi, kudziwa manambala. Mwamuna akatenga popanda zinachitikira, zilizonse, wosadziwa kanthu, akhoza kudzipha chifukwa anasankha. Mutu wa Center wa banja mu Los Angeles, Dr. Pol Popenou kuphunzira mbiri ya mabanja chikwi. Dr. Popenoe, yemwe ndi wa akatswiri yaikulu pa nkhani ya ukwati, amakhulupirira kuti kusudzulana zikhonza kukhalapo pa zifukwa zinayi, kuti n'kofunika:

1. kugonana mismatch.
2. Kukhalapo kwa maganizo osiyanasiyana okhudza yomwaza.
3. mavuto azachuma.
4. maganizo, thupi kapena chipangizo disharmony.

Ofufuza osiyanasiyana, chinthu choyamba amakhalabe zikutsatiridwa, pamene ena kusintha nthawi zonse. Koma chithunzi cha mkazi Chiameniya, iye wodzipereka dzina yosungira bata banja, palibe munthu angatsutse.

. Dr. JW Hamilton, kufufuza m'banja akazi zana ndi amuna zana, analemba kuti: "Okhawo wamwano kwambiri ndi wodalira m'tsogolo zamaganizo anganene kuti mabanja ambiri analephera osati chifukwa cha mismatch kugonana". Lang'anani, pamene kugonana akwaniritsa, mavuto ena onse angathe kuthetsedwa.

Dr. Butterfield analemba kuti: "lacimwemwe kawirikawiri ngozi, ndi chifukwa cha ntchito amazindikira, wanzeru ndi pulogalamu woganiza.

Ambiri a inu powerenga izi zikhoza potsutsa izi, chifukwa pali zinthu zimene simuli n'zosatheka kuneneratu nthawi isanakwane koma sangathe analinganiza. Nsonga iyi ife udzabwerera.

Anthu safuna kumvetsa kuti mchitidwe wogonana monga chikondi - chinthu chimodzi, koma pamene lamulo nyama - ndi nkhani ina. Komanso, iwo akutsutsana. Kodi pali kusiyana pakati pa iwo ndi chiyani? chikondi cha munthu ndi tanthauzo kulimbikira ndi mtima olimba nthawi zonse kukhala pafupi ndi chitsime cha chikondi chawo ndi mwini yekha kwa iye, pamene nyama kokha chilakolako kuthetsa njala wanu kugonana, kenako chinthu chilakolako chake sanafunike. Za chikondi ndi chibwenzi akuwuka kwa chikondi, Dr. Butterfield analemba kuti: "Kugonana ubale onse osiyana omwe ali m'banja, mbeta, kupanga ukwati wosangalatsa, koma ngati iwo sali mu dongosolo, ndi china chirichonse mu dongosolo sangakhale ".

Vuto lalikulu n'lakuti chakuti koyamba maganizo chikondi kusokonezedwa ndi makhalidwe ena ambiri, osanenapo chikhulupiriro akhungu ndi malonjezo abodza. Makamaka mkazi amene amatsogozedwa ndi maganizo ake ndiponso mmene akumvera, pakhoza kukhala zovuta milandu amenewa m'pofunika nthawi ndi molondola Asia ndipo kenako zambiri bondo zosankha atengedwa. A achinyamata, anthu achibwana sangathe kusiyanitsa chikondi, kuganiza zosangalatsa, kukhumba mkati wauzimu, masoka chisoni yosavuta chilakolako chogonana. Kodi onse maganizo amenewa ayenera kuti anakumana, iye amakhulupirira kuti chikondi ndi pokhapokha banja amadziwa kuti anachita cholakwa fateful, chifukwa cha zimene - chosadziwa, koma ambiri kubwerera zosatheka. Koma palinso zambiri zoopsa fateful mabanja akupanga chiopsezo cha imfa, ngakhale banja kuwafunsa mafunso ochititsa manyazi maso ngati wochezeka. The anafooka mwa ophatikidzana pang'onopang'ono yotopetsa, amalephera chifukwa ngozi kapena kuphedwa njira ina mu zina.

Zingakhale zilizonse kumpereka inattention mfundo zimenezi anaika miyoyo pachiopsezo cha imfa, monga kuti zokhumba. Chifukwa cha zaka zambiri za kafukufuku Ine anawerengedwa milandu yambiri ya maukwati otere.

mphamvu kugonana kwambiri zogwirizana ndi mphamvu amphamvu kwambiri moyo. Iwo - matalala mu thupi wopambana mphamvu kuti akhoza kudzuka mwapadera ndi mphamvu, ndipo iye anaponyera uko ndi mphamvu kwambiri kuti akhoza kukhala ndi mavuto oopsa kwambiri ngati munthu sadzakhala thupi odzilamulira, ndi moyo - si mokwanira otukuka. Munthu ayenera kukwatira ndi kukhala ndi kuyeza moyo kugonana. Ndi chofunika chokha chiyero thupi ndi makhalidwe abwino.