Moyo si nthawi zonse akufotokozera monga tidziwa. Wangwiro momasuka kunyumba, makolo achikondi, ana luso, ndi ntchito yabwino - zambiri onse si chithunzi cha magazini glossy. Koma bwanji ngati inu kuyambira pachiyambi asokoneza ngati osokonekera banja chiphe chiyembekezo? Kodi aliyense kuthandiza? Ndipo amene ayenera kuchita izo? Kodi amphamvu akhale ulamuliro wa boma, ndi kuchuluka - udindo wapamwamba?
Choyamba, tiyenera chimatanthauza zosiyana. Osokonekera banja - si nthawi zonse osauka kapena chosakwanira. Ana akhoza kukhala makolo, chuma kungakhale, koma ngati chiwawa kunyumba ndi manyazi ngati bambo kapena mayi ali oledzera kapena kutenga mankhwala, ngati munthu ali m'ndende - zonse umboni kwa dysfunctionality inkandisangalatsa "foni ya anthu". Street amasiye, opemphapempha litakhala. Ndipo zimaonekeratu kuti yekha osokonekera banja sangakonde ana Ndipotu zipangizo zawo ndi kudzisamalira apulumuke. Koma bwanji ngati zonse zobisika kuseli kwa khalidwe labwino? Pamene mavuto zimachitika kuseri mpanda mkulu ndi zitseko zitsulo? Ndipotu yothandiza musati kusamalira mwana kwa banja: Makolo sindikupempha ubwino, ana mumsewu si anakankhidwira kunja. Mavuto amene zingapundule ndi psyche pamoyo wake, osati kuonekera pa kuwonana koyamba. Mwachitsanzo, uchidakwa ndi, makamaka, mankhwala osokoneza bongo - ndi mapeto a osati "wokoma wa anthu". Izi matenda amene akhoza kugwira aliyense. Ndipo nkhanza si nthawi zonse zimachitika zokha mwa nyumba zauve ndi.
Komanso, ngati kale osokonekera banja chikanathandiza makamaka kugwira ntchito ya mtchalitchi - analipo dongosolo la mankhwala mokakamizidwa chifukwa cha uchidakwa, kuganizapo mmwamba okwerera, anathandizidwa ufulu - tsopano izi zingatheke zochepa. Ndipo pali zinthu paradoxical: pa mlingo wa boma inflates ndi choyalutsa mayiko: "Ana athu kupha zoipa America!", Ndipo mwa mavuto dziko monga kulibe kapena ndi adzatsekeredwa maso chatsekedwa. Experience m'mayiko ena akuonetsa kuti mkulu muyezo wa chikhalidwe si kutchinjiriza ndi pathologies matenda chikhalidwe kwambiri. Osokonekera banja ambiri akufunika thandizo maganizo ndi thandizo, osati chuma. Ndani ayenera kulabadira, amene ayenera kudera za tsogolo la mwanayo?
Ana ku mabanja ovutika chikhalidwe zambiri waukulu mavuto a m'maganizo. Iwo ndi mkulu mlingo wa nkhawa, iwo akhoza kwanthawi kumbuyo mu Kukula, iwo alibe zikhalidwe chopezera maphunziro apamwamba. Choyamba mavuto onse ngati angathe ndipo ayenera kusunga anthu ku malo yomweyo: oyandikana nawo nyumba, abale, antchito sukulu. Salabadira ndipo sanali kusokonezedwa - izi ndi zifukwa chifukwa cha zimene banja osokonekera akapanda n'zotheka kupeza thandizo. M'mayiko ambiri, anthu ambiri anagawira malonda chikhalidwe umalimbana chitetezo chiwawa. Kuwonjezera mapulogalamu chithandizo cha boma, boma ndi omwe si phindu mabungwe kupereka uphungu, nyumba, chithandizo woyenera. Mwachitsanzo, kulipira malo mavuto kapena hotlines. Osokonekera banja - si vuto payekha. Anthu amene amachitiridwa nkhanza, uchidakwa, mankhwala osokoneza bongo, banja, muyenera kudziwa komwe akufuna thandizo. Ndipo Chofunika, mu chikumbumtima anthu m'pofunika kukhala ndi unsembe kuteteza ofooka. Ndipotu, ana ochokera m'mabanja osokonekera zambiri chete povutika, iwo sakhulupirira aliyense ndi sitili nawo mavuto awo. malo Crisis kupereka akuvutika pogona tebulo ndi chiwawa, kuthandiza kuthetsa mavuto okhudza ndi za malamulo. Anthu amafuna kudziwa kuti mu vuto ambiri omwe ali ndi kupempha thandizo.