Chilakolako cha kugonana: chibadwa kapena china?

Posachedwa kasupe kakudzafika kumapeto kwa mapiri, masamba adzatsegulidwa, ndipo anthu adzafuna chikondi. Ndipo, osati za chikondi chachithupi, komanso za chikondi, zokhudzana ndi chikhalidwe komanso za ubale weniweni. Ndipo ngati chikondi chingapangidwe mosavuta, ndiye kuti nkofunika kuchitapo kanthu pamagonana a munthu mosamala, kotero, monga madokotala amati, "musamavulaze".

Choncho, choyamba, kodi chikoka ndi chiani chomwe chimawapatsa anthu moyo? Ndi chibadwa chimene chimamukakamiza munthu kuti asiye kuseri. Koma, mosiyana ndi zinyama, zomwe zimakopeka ndi kugonana zilipo, kwa munthu izi sizingokhala chibadwa cha kubereka. Choncho, sitidzagwedeza thupi, koma taganizirani nkhaniyi movuta. Mudziko laumunthu, kuphatikizapo gawo lapamtima lao, muyenera kulowa mosamala.
Chikondi, kumvetsetsa, kugonana, kukondana, kugonana kwauzimu - sangathe "kusokonezedwa" ndikuchita chinthu chimodzi. Ngati munthu sakukondwera, akunyalanyaza makhalidwe ake ndi makhalidwe ake auzimu, makhalidwe ake ndi kulankhulana, ndiye kuti azigonana naye chifukwa chakuti palibe wina pa chikondi, cholakwika. Ndipo kawirikawiri zimachitika monga choncho. Kulumikizana koteroko kwakhala kukuwonetsedwa ndi anthu ndi chilango. Kumbukirani, monga ndakatuloyo inati: "Ndibwino kuti palibe wina kuposa wina aliyense"?

Kukopa kwa kugonana kumachitika pamene pali ulusi wolumikiza mwamuna ndi mkazi. Mafunso wamba: momwe angakhudzire mtsikana kapena mnyamata kuti apeze izo? Momwe mungakwaniritsire moyo wa kugonana ndi mitundu?
Choyamba, popanda kukonda thupi ndi maganizo, munthu ayenera kunyenga. Wokongola, ndithudi, osati wonyansa.

Pali maphikidwe ambirimbiri omwe alibe vuto lililonse komanso amayesedwa nthawi zonse. Sikoyenera kufunsa dokotala za momwe angagwiritsire ntchito, pokhapokha ngati wokondedwayo, atatsimikiza kuti amadziwa kulimbikitsa chilakolako cha kugonana, akupereka kudya "mankhwala ena". Pano mukuyenera kukhala osamalitsa ndipo musalole kuti mukhale osasamala, monga Amwenye a mafuko ena omwe amadya mizu yosangalatsa ndi bowa, kuti alowe mu miyambo yambirimbiri komanso yaitali. Sichoncho ife, chabwino?

Pa maphikidwe osavulaza, chinthu chokondweretsa kwambiri ndicho kugwiritsa ntchito mafuta onunkhira. Mwachitsanzo, mafuta ofunika kwambiri a ginseng, citrus, maluwa. Mukhoza kudontha madontho angapo mu kapu ya madzi kapena kapu, makamaka m'madzi ofunda, kuti kununkhira kunayamba kufalikira mofulumira m'chipindamo kapena kuika malo otentha.
Ponena za mizimu yomwe ili ndi pheromones mu nyuzipepala, pali zokambirana zamphamvu. Wina amaganiza kuti izi ndizochita zamatsenga, kuti akope chidwi cha anthu ndi mizimu yapadera yomwe imati imathandiza pakakhala vuto lakugonana. Ena amanena kuti njira imeneyi "imagwira ntchito". Koma, ngakhale zili choncho, cholingalira kwa ozilenga mizimu ndi pheromoni ndi izi: akazi amakopedwa ndi fungo lamunthu wamwamuna, ndi azimuna aamuna. Fungo ili silingathe kugwira mosamala, kuti liphunzire kuchokera kwa ena zikwi, koma ndi, ndipo ndi fungo la thupi la mkazi limene limadzutsa mwamuna. Choncho, mizimu imaphatikizidwa pheromones - particles zomwe zimakhudza momwe timamva fungo. Panthawi ina, zinthu zatsopanozi zinkaonedwa kuti zasintha komanso zatsopano. Tsopano chidwi chawo chimafooka, koma, ngakhale zili choncho, mizimu yomwe ili ndi pheromones imakhala ikudziwika ndi tizilombo toyambitsa matenda.

Kuphatikiza pa kukhudzidwa kunja, palinso chakudya, chimene, ndithudi, chimagwira pa gawo la kugonana. Mwachitsanzo, zotsatira zabwino zimapatsa khofi ndi zokometsera ku sinamoni. Mwina n'chifukwa chake okonda kumwa khofi akugona? Komanso chokoleti, nyama yowongoka, mizu yotchedwa horseradish ndi mkate wa rye, mazira ndi zakudya zokometsera. Mukhoza kulimbikitsa kugonana, ndipo ndikusowa. Chinthu chachikulu ndikumverera kuti ndi "munthu wanu" ndipo mukhoza kudzipereka kwa iye popanda tsatanetsatane.