Vuto la zaka zapakati pazimayi: zomwe muyenera kuyembekezera ndi momwe mungagwirire nazo

Mosiyana ndi chikhulupiliro chofala, amai amavutika pakati pa zaka zambiri kuposa amuna. Ngakhale khalidwe la iwo ndi ena siliri choncho. Amuna akupandukira, musazengereze kunja kuwonetsa mavuto awo (kupeza zinthu zopanda pake, kutembenuzani osowa, kusiya banja). Azimayi amadziwa zonse mwa iwo okha. Choncho ngozi yavuto: siyiwoneka kwa ena. Ndipo panthawiyi, mkazi amafunikira chithandizo kuposa kale lonse, popeza kuti kusungulumwa kumapangitsa kuti pakhale zovuta.

Komanso, thupi lachikazi limapereka zodabwitsa zambiri zomwe simungathe kuzizoloŵera. Izi zimakhala zovuta m'maganizo, makamaka pamene mumayamba kumvetsa kuti achinyamata amapita limodzi ndi kukongola.

Vuto la zaka zapakati pa akazi akhala akukondweretsa kwa akatswiri a maganizo. Kuchokera nthawi imeneyi pali kusintha kwakukulu kokhudzana ndi kusintha kwa thupi komwe kumakhudzana ndi kusintha kwa thupi ndi moyo wa tsiku ndi tsiku.

Vuto limayamba nthawi zonse, ndizotheka kumvetsetsa kuti mkazi ali pachigawo chovuta kwa iye, malinga ndi zizindikiro zingapo, zomwe akatswiri a maganizo amagwiritsa ntchito powerenga zovuta - "mavuto a zaka zapakati pa akazi".

Kukhalapo kwa nthawi yaulere ndi maloto a antchito achinyamata, koma sizimasangalatsa akazi muzaka 35-40. Chidwi chodetsa nkhaŵa za tsogolo lake, ukwati wake, ana ake amatha kuyambitsa kuvutika maganizo. Akazi ayamba kuwonetsa ubale wawo ndi ena, kusiya maubwenzi ndi abwenzi, kupanga zifukwa zosaganiziridwa motsutsana ndi ana ndi mwamuna wake. Pazifukwa zina iwo amayamba kufunafuna tanthauzo lina la moyo, kulingalira (mwazimenezo ali ofanana ndi amuna omwe akuvutika) kuti akhala moyo wawo pachabe ndipo alibe nthawi yoti akwaniritse chinthu chofunikira. Pa nthawi imodzimodziyo, ntchito yamba, malo omwe amagwira ntchito, ntchito yawo yonse imatayika.

Kawirikawiri, kusintha kwa maganizo kumagwirizana ndi malire a zaka - zaka 40, amatchedwa "vuto la zaka 40 kwa amayi." Zowonjezereka ngati kuntchito sikukwanitsa kufika pamwamba pa mapiri, ngati moyo wa banja watembenuka: ana potsiriza achoka chisa cha makolo. Koma choopsa chachikulu kwambiri kuchokera pakuganiza za maganizo amadzibisa pokha pakapita nthawi.

Mzimayi atatha zaka 40 amayamba kumva kusintha kwakukulu m'thupi lake, zomwe nthawi zina zimamupangitsa kukhala ngati "agogo" ndipo amalepheretsa kupitirizabe kuyenda mofulumira. Kuchuluka kwa thukuta, kukomoka kwa ubongo, kusowa kwa msambo komanso zizindikiro zina zambiri zosasangalatsa tsopano zatchedwa "kutha msinkhu." Pamene thupi mwadzidzidzi linaganiza kuti ndikuuzeni "imani," kuti musiye moyo wanu ndikukupangitsani kuganiza ...

Ngati simukuthandiza pa nthawi, musatembenuzire kwa katswiri, vuto lalikulu pakati pa amayi akhoza kusewera nkhanza pa moyo wawo. Kuwononga banja, kuchotsa ana, kuchotsa mavuto kuntchito, popanda zomwe palibe phindu lililonse la ndalama. Ndipotu, kupeza wina kumakhala kovuta, makamaka ali ndi zaka 45 mpaka 50 (olemba ntchito amasankha antchito achinyamata, amphamvu komanso omvera).

Miyeso yambiri ikugwiridwa pa nkhaniyi ngakhale boma: maphunziro kupyolera mwa malonda a malonda, kulongosola nkhani zomwe zimapezeka nthawi zamakono. Ndipo zonse kuti okondedwa amvetse zomwe zikuchitika, kuzindikira zizindikiro ndi kuthandiza mkazi wofunika kwambiri pamoyo wawo.

Akazi okhaokha, akatswiri a zamaganizo amalangiza kuti asakhale kutali ndi ena, kuthana ndi kusintha kwa thupi, kufunafuna chithandizo komanso osaopa kulankhula za mavuto awo. Vuto la zaka zapakati pa akazi aligonjetsedwa, makamaka chofunika, kuvomereza kusintha monga chinthu chomwe sichitha. Nthawi zonse kumbukirani, ngakhale mutakhala ndi chaka china, izi sizikutanthauza kuti mudataya nokha. Iwe ndiwe wamng'ono, pamene iwe umamverera wachinyamata. Iwe ndiwe wofunikira kwa okondedwa ako, ngakhale iwe sukuwona izo. Inu mukusowa, okondedwa ndi okongola. Koma muli ndi ufulu wokhala odzikonda ndikuyesera kuzindikira maloto anu, omwe sanakhale nawo nthawi chifukwa chosamalira ana, za mwamuna wanu, chifukwa cha ntchito yanu mozungulira nthawi ndi maudindo ena. "Moyo mu 40 wayamba kumene!" - Awa ndi mawu abwino, chifukwa palibe amene angakhale ndi moyo mpaka pano.