Momwe mungakhalire wokoma mtima: mawu. Kuphunzira kukhala wamwano ndizabwino: mayankho osakhala ofanana

Mwamwayi, pafupifupi munthu aliyense m'moyo wa tsiku ndi tsiku amakakamizidwa kuti ayanjana ndi nkhanza. Timamva mawu amwano poyankha mawu omwe tinkatsutsidwa poyendetsa galimoto. Mkuluyo adalankhula mofulumira kwa ntchito yathu. Mmodzi wa anzanu anakudandaulirani chifukwa chobwezera ngongoleyo masiku awiri pambuyo pa tsiku loyenera. Pakhoza kukhala zochitika zambiri zoterezi. Inde, zimakhala zopweteka kwambiri kumva chinyankhulo, makamaka ngati sichiyenera. Kotero ine ndikufuna kuti ndiwuze kwa wolakwa wanga: "Wopusa yekha!" Komabe, wina sayenera kuyankha mwachibwana ndi mwano. Ndikofunika kukhala pamwamba pa izi. Yesetsani kuyankha kuchitidwa mwano mu mawonekedwe osakhala ofanana, popanda kudziwitsidwa ndi zonyansa.

"Kodi munganyengere bwanji kukongola?" - Funso lomwe liyenera kuyesedwa mosiyana. Anthu omwe adzatha kumvetsetsa yankho lake adzapatsidwa mpata woti asataya ulemu wawo pazochitika zilizonse ndi mavuto a moyo.

Kotero, tiyeni tipitirire ku funso la momwe tingakhalire amwano ndi okongola.

Grubby, ndi ndani?

Monga lamulo, anthu oterewa ndi anthu omwe ali ndi maganizo osayenerera komanso odzichepetsa, omwe akufuna kuwonjezera pochitira ena mwano. Ndipo kwa iwo izo ziribe kanthu ngakhale kuti kwenikweni ndi omwe amakuimba mlandu. Amafunikira "kuchotsa mkwiyo" pa wina. Zingawoneke bwanji, momwe mungakhalire osayenera kwa anthu oterewa, chifukwa n'zosatheka kuyankhulana nawo konse? Ndipotu, awo omwe angathe kuchitiridwa nkhanza sangathe kulimbana nawo. Chifukwa chiyani? Musalole makhalidwe amtundu. Choyamba, msilikaliyo sangathe kudzudzula ndi anthu omwe ali ndi udindo wochuluka. Nthawi zonse amadzimva kuti ndi olakwa chifukwa cha zomwe sakanatha kuchita, choncho ndizosavuta kuti zikhale zovuta. Chachiwiri, anthu omwe sakhala otetezeka sangathe kuyankha mwatchutchutchu - kudzidalira kwawo ndi kobisika kwambiri moti sangathe kuganiza mozama kuposa kulimbana ndi matemberero awo omwe akuwazungulira pofuula mokweza kapena kuwafotokozera chiyankhulo chawo cholakwika.

Gawo lachitatu la "ozunzidwa" ndilochibadwa kusagwirizana. Kuyambira ali mwana adakwezedwa kuti azilemekeza malo awo, ndipo zofuna zawo zakhala zikupita kumbuyo.

Mtundu uwu wa "luntha" umalepheretsa kuyankha mokwanira kwa wozunza awo, ndipo amayesa kupewa kulankhula naye. Kodi mungalowe bwanji m'magulu a anthuwa pamene wina akuwadzudzula? Pachifukwa ichi, timalangiza zotsatirazi: phunzirani kukhala opanda khalidwe - 1000 mayankho osagwirizana amathandiza kupereka chilango choyenera kwa wolakwira. Ndizo zonse.

Ndi koyenera bwanji kuchitapo kanthu mwamwano?

Ndipo komabe, momwe kunyada kuli kokongola? Choyamba, muyenera kumvetsa chinthu chimodzi chofunikira: palibe chifukwa chotsikira ku mlingo wa wolakwayo. Popanda kutero, mumavomereza kulephera kwanu ku chikhalidwe chakulankhulana ndi kulera. Kotero, hameem ndi wokongola! Chitani kuti interlocutor wanu wokhudzidwa amve ngati wokonda kwenikweni ndi wopusa pamaso pa ena: Pachifukwa ichi, kunyada kwake kudzasokonezedwa, ndipo inu mudzakhala wopambana mu mawu ofunika. Choncho, Khamim ndi wokongola m'njira yomwe amamvetsetsa mmene akumvera, kubweretsa mawu olumbirira pamutu. Ndipo pazimenezi muyenera kusonyeza zowonjezereka, nzeru komanso kudzidalira.

Ndipo ndi chiani chosangalatsa? Kufotokozedwa momveka bwino, izi ndizobvundikira mu chiganizo chabwino (chikhalidwe). Monga mawu palibe chinenero choyipa, ndipo kunyoza malingaliro kumachititsa kuti wolakwirayo awonongeke. Mwachitsanzo, mungathe kuchotsa mnzanu wodalirika ndi mawu akuti: "Sindikukumbukira dzina lanu ndipo chonde musandithandize pa izi!" Kapena "Lankhulani, nenani ... Nthawi zonse ndimangokhalira kuyendayenda ndikafuna chidwi!"

Mwachidule, timaphunzira kukhala amwano ndi okongola, ndi mfundo.

Kodi muyenera kukumbukira chiyani?

Mukhoza kuchitapo kanthu molondola kuti ziwonongeko za achibale anu ndi abwenzi anu. Ngati mwakhululukidwa mwadala kuti mukangane, ndiye kuti mugwiritse ntchito njira zotsatirazi:

1) Kuyenda muwonekedwe lofewa. Mamembala osatha a maofesi ndi malo oyankhulana amadziwika bwino ndi mawu awa. Chofunika kwambiri ndi ichi: Ngati mukukhala amwano, ndiye kuti timakhala ndi mawu achinsinsi monga "Maganizo anu ali ngati chingwe chachitsulo chomwe chimawombera nthawi zonse poyesera kupeza yankho!" Kapena "Wokondedwa amalingalira bwanji za mtundu wa anthu?" "

2) Funso la funsoli. Kuphunzira kukhala wamwano ndi kokongola ndipo mmalo moyankha kunyoza, timapempha funso losautsa: "Sindikuyankhula nanu tsopano, ndiuzeni komwe mudzakhala zaka khumi?" Kapena "Kodi mwataya mndandanda, amene mukuyenera kuopa?"

3) Kusamvetsa. Poyankha kuwonetserako maonekedwe ake, onetsetsani kuti simumamvetsa interlocutor: "Pepani, munanena chiyani? Makutu anga atsekedwa lero. "

4) Manyazi. Mtundu umenewu udzasunga moyo uliwonse. Pamodzi ndi iye mungathe kukhala okoma mtima nthawi zonse. Mphindi "Usandikwiyire ine, ndilibe malo obisala mitembo! Ndikubwera, ndikusewera, ndikukhalabe malo "," Inde, mtsikana, simungapulumutse dziko "," Pita, ugone pansi, makamaka pamapiri "- kutsimikizirika bwino kwa izi.

5) Chivomerezo. Gwirizanani ndi zomwe wolakwira adakuwuzani:

"Musapitirire mopanda phokoso, iwe wachibwana!"

- Inde, ndine wotero, choncho ndimakwera popanda kudikirira. Kulephera kwa mkangano kumawoneka kuti kusokoneza mwano, ndipo akusiya kukuvutitsani.

6) Nthendayi. Mukamamunyoza ku adiresi yanu, yambani kutsokomola ndikudumpha, kenako konzekerani kukhala amwano komanso okongola. Mphindi "Ndikhululukireni ine, koma ndili ndi matenda otsekula m'mimba," "Ndikuyamba chifuwa ndikazindikira kuti malingaliro a munthu angapitirire kuunika kwa nyali" zidzabwera bwino.

7) Kusokonezeka. Mukhoza kuchepetsa mkwiyo wa wolakwira ndi zokhumudwitsa zanu mwa iye: "Ndinaganiza kuti ndinu mwamuna yemwe ali ndi kalata yamtengo wapatali, koma ndizing'ono chabe", "Mind monga shell".

Musati muike "interlocutor" wanu wamwano ngati "khalidwe loipa," musamuvutitse kumukwiyitsa, koma yesetsani kuthetseratu zoipa zake.

Kodi mungatani kuti mukhale opanda pake kwa anzanu omwe ali mu fomu yoyenera?

Zoonadi, sitiyenera kuiwala kuti kunyalanyaza achibale ndi anzanu sikuti sizongokhalako chabe, komanso kutanthauza.

Pa nthawi yomweyi, nthawi zambiri mumakhala mnzanu kapena munthu wapafupi amene amakuuzani momveka bwino. Chifukwa cha khalidwe ili chikhoza kubisika mwa kuyesera kosavuta kudziwonetsera nokha ndi kutsimikizira kuti ndiwe wapamwamba. Izi ndi chibadwa chaumunthu. Mwachibadwa, mu nkhani iyi, ifenso, timaphunzira kukhala amwano ndi okongola: 1000 mayankho osayenerera amakhalapo kwa matemberero, miseche ndi kunyenga. Zonsezi zimachititsa kuti anthu okondedwa anu azikonda, yesetsani kuchitapo kanthu mwakachetechete komanso ngakhale ndi kumwetulira kosadziwika. Mwachitsanzo, "Sindimakonda abambo. Chifukwa chiyani ndikusowa mpikisano? "," Chuma changa! Kumbukirani kamodzi ndi matenda a sclerosis! "Kapena" Ndikukukhumudwitsani, koma ndikuwopa kuti ndibwino kuposa amayi anga, sindidzatha. " Mayankho awa ndi abwino kwa kuukira kwa achibale kapena abwenzi. Makhadi akuluakulu a lipenga pochita nawo ndi chong'onong'onong'o komanso chisangalalo.

Kodi mungatani kuti mukhale ndi khalidwe loipa kwa anthu osadziŵa?

Nthawi zambiri zimakhala kuti mumamva zachiwawa komanso nkhanza kuchokera kwa anthu osadziwika kapena osadziwika bwino. Mwachitsanzo, iwe ndihamila saleswoman mu supermarket. Zomwe zili zofanana, sichoncho? Kodi mungatani mukamunyoza? Apanso, timaphunzira kukhala amwano komanso okongola.

Mayankho osakhala ofanana amavomeretsa kukhala osayenera kwa ogula ena. Kodi munganene chiyani kwa wogulitsa? Mungathe kuchita izi motere: "Ndizomvetsa chisoni kuti ndakhala wotanganidwa kwambiri kuti ndisasangalale ndi zovuta zanu" kapena "Ndikumvetsa kuti mukuyesera kubwezeretsa zofooka za malingaliro ndi kulira?" Ngati munthu wosadziwika wakukhumudwitsani mumsewu, timalangiza kupereka yankho : "Sindikusamala zomwe mumaganiza za ine ... sindikuganiza za inu nkomwe!"

Kodi mungayankhe bwanji nkhanza za antchito a boma?

Masiku ano, ogwira ntchito za ndalama zapenshoni, maofesi a mzinda ndi zigawo zina za boma sizili zovuta poyankhula ndi anthu. Pachifukwa ichi, njira yotchedwa "kuphunzira kukhala wamwano ndi wokongola" siyikugwira ntchito. Mawu, zizindikiro ndi mawu osamveka ndi osayenera komanso opanda pake. Ngati ndiwe wamwano mu bungwe la boma, lembani zodandaula kwa akuluakulu akuluakulu, ndipo mukuganiza momwe mungayambe kutsuka zinyalala pamutu wa wolakwira wanu - izi zidzakuthandizani kuthetsa mitsempha pambuyo pa kunyozedwa.

Zimene mumachita ndikunyoza

Kodi mungatani mukakhala mosadziwika kapena mukukhumudwitsidwa ndi mawu? Chinthu chachikulu sichiyenera kutinyoza ndi ndalama zanu. Muyenera kumvetsetsa kuti dersoslov amakuchitirani nkhanza osati chifukwa cha malingaliro anu, koma chifukwa chakuti ali ndi khalidwe loipa, kapena ali ndi maganizo oipa. Mwa kuyankhula kwina, munthu wanu alibe chochita ndi izo. Muyeneranso kukumbukira kuti nthawi zambiri wolakwirayo amachita ntchito yake yosafunafuna, chifukwa ali ndi chiwopsezo cha chiwawa chake komanso chosayenerera.

Monga momwe zakhalira kale, kunyoza kapena kutemberera munthu ndi njira yodzivomereza, kudziwonetsera nokha, kusonyeza kudzikonda, zomwe wolakwirayo sakhala nazo pamoyo wa tsiku ndi tsiku, pamene akutsogolera moyo wa "imvi".

Ndiyenera kuchita chiyani poyamba?

Ngati mlendo akunena kuti akuchitiridwa nkhanza kumbali yanu, njira yabwino yothetsera vutoli ndi kunyalanyaza wozunza. Yesetsani kuzindikira kuti alipo, ndipo adzasokonezedwa ndi munthuyo pambuyo pake. Komabe, njirayi siigwira ntchito nthawi zonse. Ndiye timaphunzira kukhala amwano komanso okongola. "Pakamwa iwe udzatsegula kwa dokotala wamazinyo", - apa ndi momwe iwe umachitira ndi kunyoza kwa zamwano.

Ngati mawu anakhumudwitsidwa ndi abwana

Ambiri, akumva mawu okhumudwitsa kwa bwana, yesetsani kuwaphonya. "Ndipo pamene iwe ufika, iwe ukhoza kuwotcha ngati iwe ukanena chinachake motsutsa izo!" - anthu adzanena. Ndipotu, munthu ayenera kuphunzira kuteteza zofuna zake monga wogwira ntchito komanso kulola utsogoleri kuti azibalalitsa kumanzere ndi kumanja. Ndikhulupirire, palibe amene angakuphe kuti ukhale ndi ulemu komanso malingaliro ako pankhani zowonongeka.

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