Mmene condolences

Pamene okondedwa athu kapena anzawo zimachitika ena chisoni, zovuta, kapena chinachake choipa, tifuna kupepesa awo. Kawirikawiri sitidziwa momwe angachitire izo. Kodi kusankha bwino mawu chisoni akuti sakuwupweteka munthu wina, osati anabweretsa kukhumudwa kwambiri kuti interlocutor wathu? Ife makamaka nkhawa ndi funso: mmene tikumvera condolences munthu amene wataya winawake amene anamwalira? Nthawi zina, zimene tiyenera kuti asanene ichi wosakoma uthenga. Kodi kuchita izo? Kodi kuthandiza munthu kuthetsa vutoli?

Musanayambe kulankhula, ayenera kukhala bwino kuganizira mawu awo kuti mawu a condolences kwenikweni ankanyamula munthu chitonthozo ndi chilimbikitso akuvutika. Zikhala zophweka kuchita ngati mawu pansi pa pepala, ie, kulemba kalata condolence. Mu malo chete kuti tipeze mawu olimbikitsa chisoni munthu ndi kuthandiza. N'koyenera osanenapo mu kalata oyamikira ena anachita m'mbuyo zabwino kapena makhalidwe a womwalirayo, ngati inu panokha kumudziwa.

Ngati muli ndi zonse kukhala pafupi ndi iwo amene ati mwa imfa choncho, kodi ayenera kuchita kapena kuyankhula kwa munthu uyu? Mmene condolences mwana mogwirizana ndi imfa ya okondedwa ake - makolo kapena agogo - amene amawakonda? Tikambirana nkhaniyi.

Ngati nkhani zoipa za imfa ya wokondedwa ife kuuza mwana mmene tikumvera condolences mu nkhani iyi? Zamaganizo kuti n'zosatheka kumunyenga kapena mwa njira iliyonse akubisa choonadi kwa iye. Izi sizithandiza mwana. Mulimonsemo sikutheka kuti adakonda ake a wakufayo monga kugona. Apo ayi, mwana amaopa kukagona, ndipo adzachititsa nkhawa zina. Ndipo safuna kulemba nkhani zokhudza zimene Mulungu akufuna angelo kumwamba, kapena kuti chifuniro chake - anatenga mayi anga (agogo) kummero wako. mfundo izi zingagwiritsidwe ntchito pofuna kufoola chikhulupiriro munthu, makamaka mwana. Kudzatenga Mulungu wankhanza ndi kuponderezedwa. Ndipo safuna kukakamiza mwana kufikako bokosi ndi thupi, ngati akuchita mantha. Ndi bwino kufotokoza kuti mwatsatanetsatane dziko la akufa - Kodi kalikonse, sindikuganiza, sangathe kuwona, satha kumva. Iye sanali anthabuse si kulakwa. Ndi imfa. The mwana sakuopa wa womwalirayo, muyenera kumuuza kuti munthu akafa, iye sangathe kuchita chilichonse, akhoza kuimirira kapena kulankhula. Ngati mwana ali wamng'ono, komanso womvetsa, m'pofunika kumuuza kuti amachita naganiza yekha ubongo wake akadali moyo. Akufa sangatithandize bwanji moyo, choncho sayenera kuchita mantha. Sanalinso sangachite chilichonse.

Munthu aliyense ali mwini munthu kulabadira kwawo zonse zimachitika. Sindikuwatsutsa misozi ya munthu chisoni kapena mosinthanitsa kumuyesa kulira. Ngakhale ngati munthu amalira, palibe chochitira manyazi. Kumva! Mantha, kusakhulupirirana, kukhumudwa ndi mkwiyo pa munthu amene anafa - izi ndi mchitidwe wachibadwa. Inu sayenera kuthamangira zinthu. Musaphwanye kulimbikitsa munthuyo mofulumira "kuti aiwale" chisoni chawo ndi kukhala "mwamasiku onse." Iye ali nawo ufulu kuti maganizo awo! Munthu sayenera kulankhula zoipa zokhudza akufa. Kapena kunena mawu akuti monga: "Chabwino, potsiriza, inu otmuchilas (otmuchilsya)! Tsopano ngakhale chete akuusa! "Ndikhulupirireni, mawu awa palibe kulimbikitsa. Ziribe kanthu momwe munthu angakhale akufa, iye anali abwenzi ndi okondedwa, ndipo imfa yake amachititsa chisoni osati chimwemwe.

Mmene condolences mu nkhani iyi? Nthawi zina si ofunika kuti anene chirichonse. Inu muyenera kukhala pamenepo. Mwakachetechete kukhala, akugwira dzanja, kukumbatirana, kulira. Kukhala okonzeka kuthandiza zoona, osati mawu. Osandifunsanso chilichonse, salankhula mawu muyezo monga "Undiitane ngati chirichonse mukufuna." Koma bwino kukhala monga bwenzi! Weniweni. Ndipotu. Mawu achifundo, mawu achisoni ndi chitonthozo ayenera kubwera osati maganizo, koma mu malo oyamba - kuchokera pansi pa mtima. Ndiyeno munthu chisoni adzamvera nkhawa zanu chenicheni ndi kufuna kuti muchepetse ululu wake.