Chigololo: Kodi kuzipewa?

Pokopeka mnyamata ndi mtsikana wokonzeka kusiya chilichonse limodzi chabe. Adutsa pamodzi kwambiri mayesero, kulimbana ndi kukhazikitsa mtendere, kusiya n'kubwerera kwa wina ndi mzake, ndiyeno zimatumizidwa kaundula ndi kulenga banja wamba, wamphamvu ndi mgwirizano. Malinga ndi mfundo zofunika kuwonjezera kuti adzakhala limodzi kwa moyo .... Koma onse angakhale osiyana kwambiri.

Lowopsya mawu woukira boma

kusakhulupirika zomwe zingachititse chotupa cha ubwenzi wolimba, muyaya asiye banja lililonse limakhala zina wachikondi kuswa moyo wa banja lonse. Zachitikiranji zimenezi? N'chifukwa chiyani munthu amakhulupirira n'zotheka pa nthawi kuiwala za "theka lachiwiri" ndi kupita pa kufunafuna zokumana latsopano? Mwina kuperekedwa - si wowopsa, koma kumalimbitsa maganizo? Akuti ululu waukulu kwambiri kangachititse monga munthu tikonda kwambiri. Palibe woipa kuposa kuperekedwa wokondedwa - ndi kuperekedwa ndi monga mwala. Koma ife tisanati kutsutsa chigololo, muyenera kumvetsa, iwo kuchitika chifukwa chilichonse.

Nthawi zambiri, akazi amayamba kusintha mzake pamene maganizo pakati pa iwo chinazilala. Pankhaniyi, kuonera zachilendo, kuyambira ubwenzi sangathe kupitirizabe ndi kutsiriza iwo sangakhoze kuthetsedwa ngakhale mwamuna kapena mkazi. Chigololo kumachitika pamene zizindikiro loyamba mavuto m'banja. The mwamuna kapena mkazi angasonyeze zizindikiro chidwi kwa anthu ena, akuyembekeza chifukwa nsanje yovomerezeka "theka" ndi kubwerera chikondi chawo. Mwina akhoza mlandu woukira boma wolungama, popeza munali abwino. Chifukwa chachitatu akazi osakhulupirika kwa wina ndi mzake mwina kutumikira monga Rift m'banja sasangalala moyo kugonana ndi mavuto ena aliwonse amene, malinga ndi kusintha munthu, sungathe kuthetsedwa m'njira yosiyana.

Kodi kupewa kusakhulupirira?

Ciwembu mkazi angathe kupewedwa. Kodi? Kwambiri yosavuta kumva - kulankhulana. Mwamuna ndi mkazi ayenera kukhala mosapitirira ndi mzake, kambiranani momasuka mavuto a m'banja lawo. Kumene, ayenera sangafikire chipongwe mwagwirizana ndi malongosoledwe wosazindikira ukwati. nkhondo sangathe m'njira iliyonse - onse adzayamba ndi asokoneza maganizo, ndipo zotsatira adzakhala chigololo.

Ngati kuonera basi pa zifukwa zosiyanasiyana, kunachitika kale, m'pofunika kusamalira kuti iwo wosakwatira. Kuti tichite zimenezi, choyamba, mufunika kuleka kumakunenani wake wachiwiri "theka". Ndi povuta kuvomera, kukhululuka ndi kuyesa kuiwala, koma m'pofunika kapena banja sadzamva chomwecho, ubwenzi sanali kuswa deadlock, ndipo posakhalitsa akhoza kugwa. chigololo kuti si mobwerezabwereza, m'pofunika kukambirana naye kuti akankhidwira pa. Mwina zinthu si mantha.

Palibe sindingakhoze kupita ku muyeso ena - modziimba mlandu osakhulupirika mkazi. Wathu kudzidalira ndi kukhala pa mlingo wapamwamba, chifukwa chabe digiri negligible wa kuperekedwa kwa munthu mmodzi ndi chifukwa chilema thupi kapena zina zazing'ono kugonana.

Ngati ndinu wotsimikiza kuti nkhondo akuuza chimwemwe cha banja lanu, yesetsani kuti kukhululuka basi n'kuiwala chigololo, komanso kuyesa kubwezeretsa maganizo akale. Revitalize asapita mungathe chibwenzi, kukakamiza awiriwa kumbukirani bwanji anakumana pamaso pa ukwati. Iwo ayenera kupita amaziona m'mafilimu pamodzi, amene adzakhale mwamuna ndi mkazi anakumana kapena zaka maola okondwa kwambiri. Inu mukhoza kupita pa tchuthi, zomwe zinakonzedwa kwa nthawi yaitali. Mukhoza kugawana zolinga olowa moyo wamtsogolo kapena monga maloto. Chinthu chachikulu - kupereka wanu wokondedwa kumva kuti iye ndi chotero kuti zolakwa aliyense angathe kudzudzulidwa ndi kupitiriza.